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A letter to my daughters on Mother’s Day

This Mother’s Day, Time Magazine featured letters from Celebrity Moms to their daughters. This inspired me to write my own letter to my daughters.

To my girls….My inspiration

Did you know you girls are my inspiration? I wanted to take a few moments this Mother’s Day to let you know how much you both mean to me. I’m so proud to be your mom. When I was a teenager, like most kids my age I said “I’m not having kids!” Not because I didn’t like kids, but because for some reason I thought having kids meant life was over and I wouldn’t be able to do things that made me happy. How selfish was that and boy was I wrong. Without trying you changed my life. A huge part of my life began when I became your mom. I had a new view of life and was inspired like never before to follow my dreams and to make sure that I was the best example for you.

There are a few things I want you to know. It’s so important to me that you both know who I am and what I stand for and believe in…to know my heart. No other title I could ever have would be more important than being a wife and your mother. Whether we are having impromptu dance parties, taking our morning rides to school every morning or when you curl up with me in bed. Every day I spend with you is truly a gift. I know you will grow older and won’t think I’m cool anymore or be unhappy with the tough decisions I make on your behalf, but remember I’m your mom and I love you more than life itself.

I love you girls…love mom.

Haute Mom’s Have Purpose + Christine St. Vil

Christine St. Vil-HMHP

Haute Mom’s Have Purpose is an interview series that features “Haute Mommi’s” who are not only experiencing great success in their careers, but also are present and active in their homes and personal lives. Let’s be inspired by the stories and advice by Moms who are just like us, Haute Moms with Purpose. 

I met Christine through a bloggers group we are both a part of. She is such as inspiration not only to mothers like myself but has a wealth of knowledge as a business woman when it comes to entrepreneurship, blogging, purpose, social media, and empowerment. Christine’s vision is similar to mine, she wants to change the face of motherhood through helping women take charge of their lives by defining and igniting their purpose in both life and business. She is a dynamic speaker, social media guru, author, and best of all a wife and mother. Read more about Christine below and be sure to check out her website and her highly acclaimed book Whose Shoes Are You Wearing? 12 Steps to Uncovering the Woman You Really Want to Be. 

|Briefly introduce yourself and your passion/purpose.| 

My name is Christine St.Vil and I’m the Founder/CEO of Moms ‘N Charge™, a division of Purpose Driven Media, LLC. My passion is helping moms pursue their goals and dreams, in addition to being a great mom. I’m also passionate about teaching and training, and love helping women in business (especially moms) create a social media strategy that aligns with their life vision/purpose.

|What’s your favorite quote or saying?| 

One of my favorite quotes is: “Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.” It’s a great reminder that we don’t have to always have every detail in place, and every check box marked off. The key is to staying in action and doing what you can with what you have.

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|What’s on your iPod?|

Ha! A mix of everything. I mostly listen to gospel music, love Mary Mary, Tye Tribbett, Yolanda Adams, William McDowell and others. But I also have Kelly Clarkson, Janet Jackson, Usher and everything in between. My most recent and current favorite download is the “Beyond the Lights” soundtrack and Annie (for the kids, or course lol).

|What are you reading now?|

I just finished Act Like a Success, Think Like a Success (GREAT book). And I’m now reading Angel’s Laws of Blogging (Founder of Concrete Loop.com).

|How many kids do you have and what are their ages?|

I have 3 beautiful babies, one boy (age 7) and two girls (ages 5 & 3).

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|How do you find balance?|
I actually cringe when I hear “balance”. I honestly don’t believe that there’s a such thing. But I do believe that I juggle things well. As I stated in this previous article, you can’t give 100% to everything at the same time. If you’re rocking it out in one area of your life, another area is probably not as stellar. And that will probably change from day-to-day, week to week. And guess what? It’s okay. Some days I’m killing it with homeschooling and some days I’m not. Some days I’m killing it in my business and some days I’m not. And I’m okay with that. (if you want to link to my full article on this topic, here it is: Motherhood and Balance Don’t Mix & Here’s Why)
|Was there ever a moment where you felt lost in motherhood?| 
Absolutely! I talk about it all the time, especially because I know so many other moms can relate. I definitely became a “victim of identity theft” due to motherhood after I had my third child and became
Absolutely! I talk about it all the time, especially because I know so many other moms can relate. I definitely became a “victim of identity theft” due to motherhood after I had my third child and became an SAHM (Stay at home Mom). I didn’t realize how much I had allowed my corporate job to define who I was, and how much I enjoyed that part of my identity until I no longer had it. At the time, going to work gave me a sense of purpose. But becoming an SAHM, I struggled to figure out what that was. I struggled with postpartum depression after I had my third child and a lot of it, I believe, had to do with not really knowing and loving who I was deep down.
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|How important is having support?|
I can’t stress enough about the importance of having a support system. When I coach my clients who say they don’t have family or friends close by, or who support them, I encourage them to go out and create their own support system. When I was going through PPD, I found support in online communities, from complete strangers that could relate to exactly what I was going through. I also looked for mommy support groups in my area and ended up joining my local Mocha Moms group.
|How did you discover your purpose?|
When I started my company, I knew that I was on a mission to help moms discover their own purpose, and not allow the mom guilt to keep them from pursuing their goals and dreams. But when I co-authored my first book with my sister last year, I think that was the defining moment that I was on the right track. The testimonials we’ve received from people who have been able to forgive themselves for nothing they had control over, or from those who needed to hear exactly what we shared, has been humbling. It’s made us push even more to help more women to uncover the woman they were truly meant to be.
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|How important is it for mothers to find their purpose?|
 I truly think it’s so important. I wrote an article about this and someone made a comment that they wished their mom had followed her own dreams, because years later, she felt cheated as her daughter. I believe we have to set the example for our children. How can we encourage our children to go after their dreams, and to encourage them that they can do anything and be anything they want, but yet, we’re not doing the same? I want my children to be inspired and see me as that example to go after what they want in life.
|What’s the best advice you’ve ever received?|
I’ve received so much great advice over the years, especially since starting my business. But one of the best pieces of advice, when you’re pursuing your purpose and passion in life, is that it’s not about me. It’s not about you. Fear will creep up. Anxiety and stress will set in. But when you take the focus off of you and on to the person/people who are waiting to hear your message, it makes things much easier.
|How do you stay inspired?|
By connecting with people like you who have a similar mindset and drive. I listen to motivational podcasts and YouTube clips almost daily. I read inspirational quotes daily and as much as possible, I try to eliminate the negativity that I engage with.
|Have you ever experienced Mommy Guilt?|
I definitely have! I think it’s a requirement of being a mom 🙂 But one of the things that has helped tremendously (since my mommy guilt stemmed from trying to build my business and trying to start homeschooling and spending time with the kids) is involving the kids. I talk to them about what I do, the classes I teach. They know all about my book, Whose Shoes Are You Wearing? They can tell you about Moms ‘N Charge. When I tell them that I’m teaching class or that I have to travel to speak, they get excited. They think I’m a pretty cool mommy so that makes me happy 🙂
|What is some advice you would like to share with other Moms?|
Do what works for you. There is no one–size-fits-all when it comes to motherhood. There’s a lot of great advice out there. Take it and tweak it to work for your family. Don’t allow yourself to get flustered or overwhelmed because you feel you should be doing all of the twenty things a week with your children that you see another mom doing.
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When people don’t support your dream

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Isn’t this what we all want? LOL
downloadOn a more serious note…Believe it or not, I started writing this post in July 2013. I added to it several times but never pursued completing it because I didn’t want to sound as if I was resentful. Earlier this week a conversation between fellow bloggers on a network I’m a part of led to a nudge in my back and awakened these words from my safe place. Most of my posts begin like that, I go back and forth, I’m going to share this, nope not sharing that, and eventually I share and it never fails…someone reaches out to me and says thank you that was for me. So here I am again…if you’ve chosen to follow your dreams, start a business, write a book, go back to school, quit your job, and support is lacking…this is for you. Be Encouraged.
What to do when people don’t support you?
When you make a huge ginormous decision to do something great the first people, you will assume to help or support you would be the people closest to you, your friends and family. Unfortunately, this is not always the case! You send out a mass text, emails, bring it up at family gatherings and the people closest to you still don’t give their support. When this happens it’s easy to think, what is wrong with me, am I really walking in my purpose, and you begin to doubt your gift and decisions.I have a great support system, but even I have friends and family members who have probably never read this blog, commented, liked, or shared one post, and I’m okay with that. I have people who are invested, who read almost every post, comment frequently, call, and send me inspiring text messages and emails. I’ve learned over time, that’s what matters most.
Here are three things you need to do when people don’t support you:
1. Don’t take it personal, It’s not about you!
Unless it’s some true hateration going on, it’s not about you. Your friends and family aren’t necessarily setting out to not support your dream or venture. It could be that they don’t understand what you’re doing and don’t know how to help you. Personally, I think that silence from some people is golden. I would rather have someone not say anything at all than to give me all of the reasons why I shouldn’t do something and show opposition.
2. Support someone else’s dream.
You want support, giving support is the best way to get it in return. Instead using useless energy focusing on what someone else isn’t doing, turn that energy into the fuel you need to push someone else further. Many times we freely tell people what our dreams are, but we fail to inquire about theirs. Simply ask someone “What’s your dream and how can I support you?”
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 3. Be too focused to notice.
Don’t pause for the applause. Your purpose isn’t tied to support, it’s linked to investment. Find a network of people who will support you and invest in your dream, these are the people who will assist you in taking your dream or business to the next level. Don’t allow who you don’t have to, to make you feel like giving up. Stay focused on your goal.
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I saw this quote awhile ago “Friends won’t start supporting you until strangers start celebrating you.” Do you think this is true? Leave me a comment below.
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Choosing love over Criticism

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We’ve all heard this saying “You can catch more flies with honey than you can with vinegar” in other words as human beings and even animals we respond better to love. In the Bible, 1 Corinthians 13:13 (NIV) says And now these three remain: faith, hope, and love. But the greatest of these is love. Everything we are is based on love, so why shouldn’t our discipline.

This week I read a quote that literally changed my life in regards to how to deal with people and I felt convicted in my relationships and mostly how I choose to raise my children.

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“Be an encourager. The world has plenty of critics already.”

― Dave Willis

I read this quote over and again, I wrote it twice, once in my notebook, and once on a purple sticky note that to this day is still on my car console. Love is just that important, and I felt it was important and something I needed to be reminded of daily.

How many times do I choose love over criticism?

Do I criticize more than I compliment?

Do I acknowledge more of what people do the right way or give more life to what they do incorrectly?

Last week my Grandmother surprised us with a visit on her way back home to Chicago from visiting my Aunt and Cousin in Arizona. We went to Chick-fil-A for restaurant night to support my daughter’s school and as we sat across the table from one another eating chicken sandwiches and kids meals she blurted out…you’re a really good mother, you’re very patient and you don’t do a lot of fussing. It felt really good coming from a woman who raised 7 children, grandchildren and lived in an era that said you do as I say and not as I do and when I spank you I do it because I love you.

While the complement felt great, I still couldn’t help but think about that quote and how in more areas than one I could stand to be more of an encourager and less of a critic. As a parent, there are two areas that get under my skin, and I haven’t even made it to the teenage years yet…disrespect and ungratefulness. When my kid’s behaviors venture over into those two categories, you can forget it…criticism comes first and encouragement last.

What would happen if I chose encouragement over criticism? What would that teach my child about conflict? What would happen if in most situations I chose love over punishment…punishment, not discipline? I can think back to plenty of cases where I gave punishment when I should’ve given love. Does it mean that I won’t punish my children…Absolutely not! It just means I will be more conscious of the times I use punishment and the times I just need to show extra love and attention.

“Parenting is not about being the perfect parent, but finding the perfect method to raise your child.”

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1. Listen. Sometimes children just want to be heard and understood. Whether they are 5 or 45, they just want to know that someone is this enormous and sometimes unfair world hears them.

2. Choose your words. Words have power. I can remember most of the negative words that have been said to me over time more than the positive ones. Alter your language and tone, many times it’s how you say something versus what you actually say.

3. Be open. Could it be that our kids lie to us because they are afraid of the criticism that comes along with telling the truth. Punishment creates fear and closes the door to future conversations.

Love is an open language, criticism closes the door and stops up our ears and clouds are hearts. Encouragement breathes life. What am I teaching my kids about love? How am I teaching them about love outside of what I say, but in my actions?

Choose love.

Choose to uplift.

Choose to see the best.

Choose to accept.

Choose to listen.

Choose to find the good.

Choose happiness.

Choose kindness.

Choose to speak life.

Choose to encourage.

Choose to love.

Love could be the difference maker in a parent-child relationship, it could be the difference maker in a broken marriage. It has the power to mend a friendship. Love could make someone’s day and cause them not to give up. There are enough critics, be an encourager.

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Jackie Robinson West, You’re still Champions.

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As I began my day this Wednesday morning, the news headlines and social media was already buzzing about the Jackie Robinson West Little League Team. Not good news of their continued success as students, honor roll announcements, and stories of moving beyond homelessness…Nope. But headlines that rang out “Jackie Robinson West stripped of Little League World Series title…Little League Punishes Chicago Team…Jackie Robinson West stripped of U.S. Little League title for cheating.

My heart began to ache for these boys, who had the opportunity to experience what even some adults could only begin to imagine. The group of young men who ignited a city and gave hope to countless children and families of how far you can go when you work hard and believe in yourself. A CBS Chicago journalist put it best in his article, “Even the most feel good of feel good stories — one in which children achieved and in which their joy in doing so brought joy to millions of viewers — can’t feel good because adults suck. And that’s when these all-star teams become objective units comprised of little people for whom baseball has become a job, not a game.

I wanted to write a personal letter to the Jackie Robinson West Little League team.

Jackie Robinson West, you’re still champions. Do you know what a champion is? Someone who commits an act of the following: extreme courage, extreme awesomeness; one who is worthy of positive recognition for such an act (Urban Dictionary). There isn’t anywhere in that definition or any explanation I’ve found that states a champion is someone who has received an award, ring, title, or trophy. The good thing about being a champion is that NO ONE can take it away from you, it is something that reigns deep inside of you. NO ONE can take away the hard work you put in practice after practice and game after game. NO ONE can take away the memories you had to travel from state to state with your families and teammates and abroad. NO ONE can take away the celebration you have in your heart and experienced in front of thousands of Chicagoans in your hometown. NO ONE can take away your visit to the White House and the opportunity to meet and be honored by the President of the United States of America. NO ONE can take away the memories from your trip to Disney World and the countless fun you had. NO ONE can take away when the Cubs wore your jerseys during their practice and you sat in the dugout.They may have taken away the title and the trophy, but don’t allow them to take away your dream, your will, and your fight for you’re still champions. Still our Champions!

“Declare yourself a champion in the morning for you conquered many unseen and evident life battles through your years; at night declare it again for the many more battles you lived through in that day.”
― Wayne Chirisa

 

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Haute Mom’s Have Purpose + Dr. Tara Jenkins

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Haute Mom’s Have Purpose is an interview series that features “Haute Mommi’s” who are not only experiencing great success in their careers, but also are present and active in their homes and personal lives. Let’s be inspired by the stories and advice by Moms who are just like us, Haute Moms with Purpose. 

I love this lady! She is one of the nicest people I know! When I first decided to launch this interview series, she was the first person I thought of. She probably doesn’t know this, but she is one of the reasons I began to seek out my purpose. After one bible study at my Chicago church home, she introduced me to a book that forever changed my outlook on life “Just Enough Light for the Step I’m On” by Stormie Omartian and I have never been the same. Enough about me…

Dr. Tara Jenkins is an amazing wife, mother, creative communicator of God’s word, a passionate leader, she sings, plays the piano, can spit spoken word and 16 bars with the best of them, proficient in ballet, and can tap dance in 4 inch heels! She is the beautiful wife and Chief Encouragement Officer to Pastor and Singer Charles Jenkins whose single “This Means War” is climbing the Billboard charts and brand new video was just released this week! Click here to watch the official video”This Means War” Keep up with Dr. Tara via her blog titled “Chief Encouragement Officer” at tarajenkins.org 

|Briefly introduce yourself and your passion/purpose.| 

I’m Tara Jenkins, I was born and raised in the small town of Jackson, Tennessee, but I am now learning how to raise 3 amazing kids who were born in the big city of Chicago! My passion and purpose is to motivate women, wives and girls to maximize their potential in every area of their lives.

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|What’s your favorite quote or saying?| 

One of my favorite quotes is, “Never accept a ‘no’ from someone who never had the power to give you a ‘yes’ in the first place. I have seen others be discouraged by critics and I have experienced it myself. However, your discouragers should never frustrate you to the point of inactivity! I like to encourage the discouraged by saying, “Do what you were created to do, not what you are expected to do…”

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|What’s on your iPod?|

My iPod may have every genre of music that’s on iTunes! From a little country from Keith Urban, Lady Antebellum(thanks to my Tennessee roots), to a little pop with Vintage Bieber(thanks to the kids), a little stepping music from R. Kelly(thanks to 18 years in Chicago), a little hip hop from Doug E. Fresh(because of my love for all types of dance), and of course I have countless gospel artists on my iPod, especially Charles Jenkins who is the reason I am a mother!!(Lol)

|What are you reading now?|

My reading is usually geared toward preparing to teach from the bible. Right now, I am enjoying the book of Proverbs, which has 31 chapters, so it’s a perfect way to read a chapter of wisdom every day.

|How many kids do you have and what are their ages?|

I am blessed to have 3 kids, who are 11 & 10-year old girls and a 6-year old boy.

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|How do you find balance?|
One of my mentors taught me early on, that life is not a balancing act, it’s a juggling act. There are certain times when you have to be hands on in a particular situation and then seasons change. The key is knowing what can hang in the air when!
|Was there ever a moment where you felt lost in motherhood?| 
The only reason, that I don’t feel lost every day is because I have motherhood guides around at all times! I feel like I am learning as I go. You can easily feel lost if you’re isolated and don’t seek advice.
|How is having support important?|
Trying to be a mother without support is a guaranteed way to self-destruct. Women must relinquish the desire and control to do-it-all and be honest about what areas support is needed. It is our pride that feeds this unhealthy cycle. The Proverbs 31 woman had staff that helped her handle her role!
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|How did you discover your purpose?|
My purpose is consistently revealed through my frustrations. It bothers me internally to see beautiful, talented women, wives, and girls live as a lesser version of themselves. So I have a passion for convening these groups and equip them to be more! If someone is seeking their true purpose, they should ask themselves what bothers them the most!
|How important is it for mothers to find their purpose?|
 It is imperative for mothers to discover their purpose because our children are our greatest imitators. The kids need to see this process of living in purpose unfold in their parents’ lives so that they will know how to do the same.
|What’s the best advice you’ve ever received?|
The best advice I received was to relinquish doing what others can do and invest my time in doing those things that only I am created to do.
|How do you stay inspired?|
I stay inspired by having a circle of friends who are go-getters and not go-sitters. Their risk-taking personalities keep me out of the box!
|What is some advice you would like to share with other Moms?|
I want every mom to remember to have fun in each season. The hustle and bustle of baby bottles, diapers, doctors appointments, then school, homework, and extracurricular activities can drain the fun out of life. When it’s possible, plan a do-nothing day to chill, laugh and wear footed pajamas together all day long!

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5 Ways to Make Personal Growth a Priority

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“This post is part of International Quality of Life BlogIt Day, sponsored by Sodexo.”
“The key to ultimate happiness and fulfillment lies within our transformation. The more we learn and grow and evolve as individuals, the more we will find happiness and satisfaction in relationships, work, and life.”
― Kristi Bowman
Since the day we are born, it is an expectation that we are to grow physically and mentally. When you are a child, you can’t wait to become a year older and to matriculate from one grade level to the next. As parents, we expect our kids to grow, in fact growing makes us happy. It gives us a sense of accomplishment and fulfillment. Should the expectation be the same in the workplace? Outside of the monetary satisfaction how does work contribute to your quality of life?When you think about it, you spend more time at work than you do at home with your family. Many people spend those 8-10 hours being completely unhappy, unsatisfied, not experiencing personal growth, and consequently that unhappiness spills over into their home lives and lingers in personal relationships. We are just a few days shy of the 2nd month of 2015, and our quality of life should be top on our list of what we expect to accomplish this year.Quality of life is defined as the standard of health, comfort, and happiness experienced by an individual or group.

I am grateful to have worked for two non-profits who took pride in promoting individual growth, provided access to resources, and even showed interest in projects and personal aspirations. My own vested interest in my growth is important to me in the workplace and outside of it. I realized a long time ago my personal growth was my responsibility. I was in charge of my growth, promotions, and also limitations.

I realize that everyone doesn’t have the luxury to work in an environment where personal growth is accepted and its more like the crabs in a barrel environment. No matter which category your personal growth lies in, I have compiled five ways you, yourself, and you can do to ensure you experience the growth necessary to experience the quality of life you deserve.

1. Find out who you are.

You cannot, I repeat cannot know where you are going, unless you know who you are! If you want to experience personal growth in the workplace or outside of it for that matter, you have to first know what you are reaching for. Many times we can become frustrated about where we are and make rash decisions when it pertains to our career, partly because we haven’t discovered our purpose yet.

2. Make a commitment to grow.

I remember when I first started my working in the non-profit field, I was working in finance. I had no previous financial experience, but I was willing to learn and grow. Almost every year (outside of my scheduled employee evaluation) I submitted a growth plan to my boss and it contained my highs and lows of the year, what I could work on, and where I wanted to be in the next year. I made it clear to my employer before he ever presented it to me that I had a commitment to personal growth.

3. Connect with others who want to see you grow.

It is a great thing to be surrounded by people who wish to see you become. If you don’t have people around you that fit where you are going, it may be time to seek them out. If you have a boss who is open and want to see you experience growth have a conversation with them about your aspirations, allow them to evaluate your strengths and weaknesses, don’t be afraid to ask for more challenging assignments and responsibility.

4. Keep learning and enhancing your skills.

Many times we get comfortable and become stagnant, and before we know it, we haven’t moved in five years. One of the best ways to combat that type of behavior is with learning and exposing you to new ideas and opportunities. Most companies offer tuition reimbursement take advantage of those programs and take a class, go to seminars, conferences, and make it happen. Many times we can be inclined to sit back and wait for others to acknowledge and notice us, but the responsibility lies in our hands.

5. Do it for your happiness.

When you experience personal growth your quality of life changes. You will thank you and the people around you will notice the difference in your personality when you are experiencing personal growth.

Leave me a comment below! I want to hear from you, what would be #6 on your list of making personal growth a priority?

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The Five Dreams of Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

hbmv5vmqgxmhug_small To say Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. was a dreamer would be an understatement and devalue his Legacy. The goal of every dreamer should be to move from dreamer to doer as Dr. King did. A passionate leader with a heart beyond his years, a dream that still reigns true 52 years later, and a destiny fulfilled.

As a dreamer, I only hope to have half of the qualities Dr. King exhibited. As, I read the transcript from his 1963 “I have a dream speech” from his heart, flowed these qualities. These were not only what he believed in, but what he aligned his life with, and what he wanted to see in the lives of other people.

Five Dreams of Dr. King

  1. Dreamed of Unity. He knew he couldn’t fulfill his dream alone. He believed as a people we should have prayed together, worked together, struggled together, went to jail together, stood up together, and believed together.
  2. Dreamed through Difficulties. He was arrested 30 times, stabbed, his home bombed with his wife and child inside, and encountered countless acts of racial and social injustice on his journey.
  3. Dreamed of Transformation. He dreamed that one day America and the people in it would be transformed beyond their current state of segregation, injustice, and oppression.
  4. Dreamed of the next generation. His dream was beyond the current generation, but a multi-generational dream to live in peace and to have a fair chance at existence and success.
  5. Dreamed with purpose. He had a purpose to bring light into dark places, to empower others to fight with character for equality and to create a better life for generations to come. Purpose fulfilled.

He taught us about life through his life: 

Discipline & Dignity

“We must forever conduct our struggle on the high plane of dignity and discipline. We must not allow our creative protest to degenerate into physical violence.”

Forgiveness

“Forgiveness is not an occasional act, it is a constant attitude.”

Faith

“Faith is taking the first step even when you can’t see the whole staircase.”

Hard work

“If a man is called to be a street sweeper, he should sweep streets even as a Michelangelo painted, or Beethoven composed music or Shakespeare wrote poetry. He should sweep streets so well that all the hosts of heaven and earth will pause to say, ‘Here lived a great street sweeper who did his job well.”

Love

“Hatred paralyzes life; love releases it. Hatred confuses life; love harmonizes it. Hatred darkens life; love illumines it.”

Responsibility

“You are not only responsible for what you say, but also for what you do not say”

Survey Results are in + What’s coming to OHM in 2015!

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First things first! Thank you so much for participating in my 2015 Reader Survey! The responses helped me to get an idea of who you are and to gather your input regarding topics close to your heart. I have already begun to create content around your suggestions, as you will see below. Although the survey results are closed, you can always leave me suggestions here in the comments or email me at info@onehautemommi.com.

 

 

 

Here are the results….

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Were you surprised by the results? In addition to the survey, many of you included so many words of encouragement and I really took them to heart. THANK YOU! I will be writing more in 2015 than in 2014 and I have so many new and exciting post and series prepared for you!

I wanted to share a few of them with you…

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Hello Again. Welcome to 2015.

Instagram Post-2I’m an 80’s baby and growing up in the 90s, remixes reigned supremee on our radios and the ever so popular single cassette tape I popped into my boom box. Many songs had remixed versions that seemed to go harder than the original versions, so much so that if today I played you a version of certain songs you would look at me side-eyed as if that wasn’t the song you remembered. Who could ever forget the infamous remix of Jodeci’s “Come and talk to me“, Destiny’s Child “No No No Part 2”, or Brandy’s “I want to be down ” remix featuring Queen Latifah, MC Lyte, and YoYo.
Have you ever seen a vintage home originally built in the 1800’s or early 1900’s completely revitalized with modern touches and it’s original detail giving it the essence of a completely new home?Beautiful right? Diddy thought he invented the remix, but I beg to differ. As I began to pray, plan and strategize for 2015 I began to throw out words I needed to model my year after. As you know in 2014 my word for the year was Jump (if you have not read it you can click here and here to be brought up to speed). As I began to throw out ideas words like revitalize, repurpose, refocus, and readjust kept coming up. Then the word Again came up. I repeated Hello Again.
I write stuff down, that’s what I do. Sometimes I write in a Moleskine notebook, other times really small on post-it notes, and most of the time in Evernote. As I glanced through these notes, I realized that year after year I came up with new ideas, new business plans, new to-dos, but eventually moved on to newer shinier ideas. So what happened to those ideas i never worked on do they just sit in my notebook like a trophy on a mantle as to say look what i thought of or do I take them and breathe life into them again. Now I’m not saying every idea or thought needs to be resurrected, just the ones that mirror my purpose, where I currently am, or where I’m looking to go in the future.
I found my purpose in Again, so I’m just crazy enough to think that maybe God hid some other treasures in thoughts, ideas, and visions he previously gave me. God doesn’t only give us new things, but his specialty is making all things new! 2015 will be my year of Again! Hello Again.
Jump again.
 Begin again.
 Born again.
Dream again.
Laugh again.
Love again.
Start again.
Succeed again.
 Start over again.
Write again.
Breathe again.
Create again.
 Live again.
 Try again.
Revisit again.
Find purpose again.
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I saw this meme on social media a few times over the past week and it is so fitting to this post. There is something in each one of our lives we need to revisit or pursue again. That might be the one thing that introduces you to your purpose.
What are some areas in your life you need to say Hello Again to? Leave me a comment below!
P.S., Please, please (don’t make me beg) take my survey as I look to enhance in 2015! It’s only open for a few more days! Click here to take my 2015 Reader Survey.
Be encouraged! Happy New Year! #HelloAgain2015
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