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One Haute Mommi presents…The Adventures of Taylor & Morgan!

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My daughters love YouTube, I know for a fact my youngest has contributed to thousands of views of children’s programming! They have been asking me for quite a while to film their own video and we finally did. These two have so much personality as you will see in this video and I hope you will support them by watching, sharing with your friends and family, leaving a comment, and of course by subscribing so you won’t miss any future videos!

Thanks so much for always supporting One Haute Mommi and now “The Adventures of Taylor & Morgan! Enjoy!

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5 Ways to Make Personal Growth a Priority

5 Ways to Make Personal Growth a
“This post is part of International Quality of Life BlogIt Day, sponsored by Sodexo.”
“The key to ultimate happiness and fulfillment lies within our transformation. The more we learn and grow and evolve as individuals, the more we will find happiness and satisfaction in relationships, work, and life.”
― Kristi Bowman
Since the day we are born, it is an expectation that we are to grow physically and mentally. When you are a child, you can’t wait to become a year older and to matriculate from one grade level to the next. As parents, we expect our kids to grow, in fact growing makes us happy. It gives us a sense of accomplishment and fulfillment. Should the expectation be the same in the workplace? Outside of the monetary satisfaction how does work contribute to your quality of life?When you think about it, you spend more time at work than you do at home with your family. Many people spend those 8-10 hours being completely unhappy, unsatisfied, not experiencing personal growth, and consequently that unhappiness spills over into their home lives and lingers in personal relationships. We are just a few days shy of the 2nd month of 2015, and our quality of life should be top on our list of what we expect to accomplish this year.Quality of life is defined as the standard of health, comfort, and happiness experienced by an individual or group.

I am grateful to have worked for two non-profits who took pride in promoting individual growth, provided access to resources, and even showed interest in projects and personal aspirations. My own vested interest in my growth is important to me in the workplace and outside of it. I realized a long time ago my personal growth was my responsibility. I was in charge of my growth, promotions, and also limitations.

I realize that everyone doesn’t have the luxury to work in an environment where personal growth is accepted and its more like the crabs in a barrel environment. No matter which category your personal growth lies in, I have compiled five ways you, yourself, and you can do to ensure you experience the growth necessary to experience the quality of life you deserve.

1. Find out who you are.

You cannot, I repeat cannot know where you are going, unless you know who you are! If you want to experience personal growth in the workplace or outside of it for that matter, you have to first know what you are reaching for. Many times we can become frustrated about where we are and make rash decisions when it pertains to our career, partly because we haven’t discovered our purpose yet.

2. Make a commitment to grow.

I remember when I first started my working in the non-profit field, I was working in finance. I had no previous financial experience, but I was willing to learn and grow. Almost every year (outside of my scheduled employee evaluation) I submitted a growth plan to my boss and it contained my highs and lows of the year, what I could work on, and where I wanted to be in the next year. I made it clear to my employer before he ever presented it to me that I had a commitment to personal growth.

3. Connect with others who want to see you grow.

It is a great thing to be surrounded by people who wish to see you become. If you don’t have people around you that fit where you are going, it may be time to seek them out. If you have a boss who is open and want to see you experience growth have a conversation with them about your aspirations, allow them to evaluate your strengths and weaknesses, don’t be afraid to ask for more challenging assignments and responsibility.

4. Keep learning and enhancing your skills.

Many times we get comfortable and become stagnant, and before we know it, we haven’t moved in five years. One of the best ways to combat that type of behavior is with learning and exposing you to new ideas and opportunities. Most companies offer tuition reimbursement take advantage of those programs and take a class, go to seminars, conferences, and make it happen. Many times we can be inclined to sit back and wait for others to acknowledge and notice us, but the responsibility lies in our hands.

5. Do it for your happiness.

When you experience personal growth your quality of life changes. You will thank you and the people around you will notice the difference in your personality when you are experiencing personal growth.

Leave me a comment below! I want to hear from you, what would be #6 on your list of making personal growth a priority?

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Survey Results are in + What’s coming to OHM in 2015!

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First things first! Thank you so much for participating in my 2015 Reader Survey! The responses helped me to get an idea of who you are and to gather your input regarding topics close to your heart. I have already begun to create content around your suggestions, as you will see below. Although the survey results are closed, you can always leave me suggestions here in the comments or email me at info@onehautemommi.com.

 

 

 

Here are the results….

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Were you surprised by the results? In addition to the survey, many of you included so many words of encouragement and I really took them to heart. THANK YOU! I will be writing more in 2015 than in 2014 and I have so many new and exciting post and series prepared for you!

I wanted to share a few of them with you…

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I’m so excited about these 2 series, Haute Mom’s have Purpose is an interview series, where you will have the opportunity to read interviews from women who are not only making it happen in their purpose and careers, but also in their homes. Look out for the first post this month! I receive questions all the time from people who are looking to start blogging. I’m in the process of working on a series entitled “So you want to blog..”Learn what this blogging thing is all about! Stay tuned!

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2015 is here! Can you believe it…me either! It is my goal to always present this blog to you in it’s best version. In order to do that, I need to hear from you. I value your opinion and I would love to hear your thoughts on what you would like to see in 2015.

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I can’t wait to receive your feedback! Your responses are 100% anonymous.

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Jump Series: 2014, The Year I Jumped (Part Two)

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(Click here to read Part One of the Jump Series)
In almost every language imaginable, the word quit is seen as a negative connotation. It means you gave up, said forget it, or even to some shows a sign of mental weakness, but not so. In many cases, quitting is a sign of strength, obedience, and necessity for many.
In my culture you find a job, you work, and if they will have you…you retire. You don’t quit. Who leaves comfort for uncertainty and familiarity for the unknown…. I did.
From early on in my childhood I can vividly remember knowing where I wanted to be, but wasn’t too sure about the middle part. Have you ever had the perfect sleeping situation set up? You had the perfect pillows, the mattress was comfy, your blanket was nice and soft…but you couldn’t sleep. I’ve had many moments like that in my life…the setup was perfect…but I could never clearly get comfortable in the middle to get to my ideal end.
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 In high school I was a below average student, I was accepted into college through a program who gave students with below average grades and low test scores a “chance”. I took this chance and throughout my college tenure I received several dean list awards and graduated with honors. In college, I immediately declared my major in Marketing, I had always been fascinated with advertising and how it was connected to various brands, but soon changed my major because I felt like the business program was too difficult and I became distracted and decided to take a different route.
The day after my college graduation, I interviewed for an Admissions Advisor position at an online University through a staffing agency. After the interview I received a call back from the office manager stating they didn’t choose me for the position, but would like to hire me for a different position within the agency itself. I worked there for almost 3 years, and I was fired. I was devastated, I remember crying thinking who would fire me?? I later realized God was trying to take me somewhere else, but I couldn’t get there unless I let some things go. That summer after I was fired, I looked for job after job, had interview after interview and nothing. I decided to make the most of my time and signed up at my church to volunteer. A volunteer opportunity turned into a temporary opportunity that turned into a full-time position. I couldn’t deny that God had a plan for me, but I just wasn’t quite sure what that plan was. Throughout those years I learned so much and was exposed to a wealth of opportunities and resources. One day I had the opportunity to sit in a branding workshop and a light bulb went off in my head and in my heart. It was as if I was reunited with my natural instinct. I had been reunited with a passion I had totally buried with life and forgotten about. My middle was finally clear! Part of me felt revived and ignited, but another part of me felt like a complete idiot for wasting so much energy focusing my career in directions I wasn’t meant to go in.
Proverbs 3:5 (NKJ)
5 Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; 6 In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths.
My life has been filled with these different moments and many different paths…paths I didn’t choose for myself, but ordered by God. I prayed, fasted, and seriously sought God’s plan for my next path and when he brought it to me, there was no way I could step back from the edge. Many times on your way to your next level you will have to separate from something and an old part of you has to die. For me it wasn’t just a job, it was a family. To leave was one of the hardest decisions I think I’ve ever had to make, but I had to be true to myself and open to where God wanted to take my family and I.
One night during dinner, my seven-year old said grace at our table, and after grace she asked if she could add something. She continued, “Thank you God for this beautiful house, thank you for Mommy’s new job, and thank you that she is following her dream that she dreamed of since she was a little girl. Amen.” That’s why I quit.
I hope this post inspires you to jump and to step out on faith in some areas in your life, and to also revisit areas you may have forgotten about. My word for 2015 is Again. I believe God is going to use us in some areas we have forgotten about or that have become buried by life. Many times it’s easier to come up with something new rather than to finish what we started.
Leave me a comment, what have you started in 2014 or previous years that you need to finish in 2015? What’s your word or phrase for 2015? 
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34 years…34 life-changing moments

34 life-changing moments

Experience is not what happens to a man; it is what a man does with what happens to him.”
Aldous Huxley

There’s something about getting older that brings about reflection. Today I celebrate my 34th birthday and I decided to reflect on 34 life-changing moments that played a major role in my development and who I am. I firmly believe every experience whether good or bad molds us into our best selves. Everyday I’m learning to appreciate every moment.

1. The moment I was born.
2. The moments I didn’t have a care in the world.
3. The moment I was introduced to God.
4. The moment I knew I could have it all.
5. The moments I walked across those stages.
6. The moments I doubted my existence.
7. The moments I wanted to give up.
8. The moments I gave up, made me better.
9. The moments I thought I knew it all.
10. The moment I wanted to end it all.
11. The moment when I realized that God’s plans for me were bigger than I could ever imagine.
12. The moment when I decided to just be myself
13. The moment when I realized that no one could stop me but me.
14. The moment when what used to matter to me really didn’t matter anymore
15. The moment I stopped comparing myself to others because who they are isn’t what it’s cracked up to be anyway.
16. The moment I was heart broken.
17. The moment I embraced my individuality.
18. The moment I let go of my past hurts because it’s not worth holding on to.
19. The many moments I made mistakes.
20. The moment I embraced the process.
21. The moment I started praying extravagant prayers.
22. The moment God heard me.
23. The moment I got fired.
24. The moment I knew my worth.
25. The moment I felt good enough.
26. The moment I realized happiness was tied to people, but joy was found within myself.
27. The moment I experienced real love and said yes.
28. The moment I knew motherhood was one of the toughest yet rewarding jobs I will ever have.
29. The moment I started this blog.
30. The moment I walked in faith.
31. The moment I felt fulfilled.
32. The moment I discovered my purpose.
33. The moment I jumped.
34. The moment I started living my dreams.

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Jump Series: Take a dive (Part One)

2014-10-14 13.03.22Take a dive (verb): Taking a dive refers to purposefully losing a competition for personal gain (urban dictionary)

New Years Resolutions are a trip. You set them. You break them. You start over , look up and it’s December all over again. Jump. Jump was not a resolution at all, but one word. One word I would use to set the standard of my year. One word to push myself when I was fearful.

 

 

Jump further.
Jump higher.
Jump faster.
Jump when you’re tired.
Jump when you’re sore.
Whatever you do…don’t stop Jumping.

This is not a factious account of something I witnessed, but my personal account of what it means to jump into the sea of my fears, eyes filled with tears, anticipating the rush of water into my face as if this was my last adventure only to realize that I’m only getting started. Jump.

2014 has been a eye-opening year, I moved with my family to a new state, started a new job, and embraced a new reality with the people I love. Did I foresee this on December 31, 2013 when I boldly declared in January I was going to Jump? No! It’s funny how our plans are not our on plans and until this very day, I’m still in awe. In life there are decisions we have to make but the first decision is not putting limitations on our lives. We have to allow God to take us where his car drives us and be open to his direction. I took a dive. Was I in competition with someone? Not at all. I was in competition with myself. Competing to be the best version of myself. Competing to be an example to my daughters and to show them what sacrifice and faith looks like. With my eyes open wide…I jumped.

Stayed tuned for part two.

There are 65 days left in 2014. What areas in your life are you going to jump in? Leave me a comment!

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5 ways being a parent taught me to be a leader

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Family Matter’s is one of my favorite sitcoms from the 90s. The main character Steve Urkel filled the show with his unhelpful accidents, irritating snorts, and his famous “Did I do that?” The show also highlighted the Winslow family, who much like the Huxtable’s portrayed positive family values. In one episode, the mother Harriet went on a job interview and the interviewer asked her if she had supervisory experience and her response was yes, I have three children and a husband, I manage a household and it’s expenses, I cook meals, and manage several schedules! I am a leader!

Do you know you are leader? Yes, you…if you are a parent, can run a household, teach life lessons, mediate sibling rivalry, and still have something to smile about! You are a leader!

DISCLAIMER: I am not endorsing these thoughts to be used in an interview setting. These are merely my thoughts on how being a parent taught me to be a leader.

1. Know the who.

If you treat your 8-year-old like a 3-year-old it will blow up in your face like a bad science experiment. Know whom you are dealing with even adults.

2. BYOE (Bring your own energy)

Don’t let a screaming child or a difficult adult steal your energy or your joy for that matter. Bring your positive energy home and to work.

3. Manage the good.

See the good in people; it’s easy to focus on the bad parts. Write down 5 things you notice and admire about your children and your co-workers/employees.

4. Know who’s in charge.

Just as children need to be molded, corrected, and many times reeled back in, so do team members and employees. If you are in a position of leadership, use maturity and wisdom to communicate expectations.

5. Overnight Celebrity.

Embrace the process; don’t be discouraged if progress doesn’t happen overnight. Just as it takes 9 months to have a baby, it takes years to raise a child, and it also takes time to become a great and a respected leader.

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