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Cant see? It might be time to change the lens.


“View life through a wide-angle lens attitude and see your horizons broaden.”
― Stephen Richards

Looking for that moment of clarity. Can you see it? It might be time to change your lens. “It” may have a different meaning for each of us. I’ve been looking for something, but I’m not quite sure what it is. It can be pretty frustrating because I know something is there, but I just can’t see it. I can’t grasp it. So at this point in my life, I’m searching for clarity.

There are many devices that were created to improve or enhance our vision. Our natural eyes were created with the highest quality, but without certain devices it’s impossible to see many places and the depth of certain situations. .

Sometimes in life we need to examine ourselves closer and other times we need to take a step back and see things from different angles to reach another level of focus, clarity, and vision.

• Goggles help you see underwater. You might need to wear your goggles to see where you’re going through tears, pain, or disappointment.
• Glasses/Contact lenses help to see objects in front of you closer or further away. If you’d just put your glasses on, what you’re searching for is probably right in front of you or could possibly take you a little longer to reach.
• A Magnifying glass helps you to something closely. Many decisions require you to look beyond your current view, you have to get down on your knees to get close up to see what’s really there.
• A telescope helps you to see something very far away even further than a pair of binoculars. We have to learn to look beyond our current circumstances to see our potential for the future.
• A Microscope helps you to see things that are smaller than the naked eye can comprehend. We can be looking for something big when what we need is already in our hands; it was just too small to see.
• A Periscope is a lens used on a submarine to see far below sea level. The quest for clarity requires digging such as research, exposure, and soul-searching.
• An ultrasound is a lens used to take medical images of the body. Clarity requires pushing through what you see, hear, and know to see what is really beyond the surface.

Earlier in the week, I posted this thought on FB.

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I realized I was looking at my situation with a telescope when I really needed a microscope in my hands. What I needed was right in front of me, I just needed to take actionable steps to truly see it. What situations have you been looking at with the wrong lens? Pick up the right one and take action!

Have a great weekend!


5 ways being a parent taught me to be a leader


Family Matter’s is one of my favorite sitcoms from the 90s. The main character Steve Urkel filled the show with his unhelpful accidents, irritating snorts, and his famous “Did I do that?” The show also highlighted the Winslow family, who much like the Huxtable’s portrayed positive family values. In one episode, the mother Harriet went on a job interview and the interviewer asked her if she had supervisory experience and her response was yes, I have three children and a husband, I manage a household and it’s expenses, I cook meals, and manage several schedules! I am a leader!

Do you know you are leader? Yes, you…if you are a parent, can run a household, teach life lessons, mediate sibling rivalry, and still have something to smile about! You are a leader!

DISCLAIMER: I am not endorsing these thoughts to be used in an interview setting. These are merely my thoughts on how being a parent taught me to be a leader.

1. Know the who.

If you treat your 8-year-old like a 3-year-old it will blow up in your face like a bad science experiment. Know whom you are dealing with even adults.

2. BYOE (Bring your own energy)

Don’t let a screaming child or a difficult adult steal your energy or your joy for that matter. Bring your positive energy home and to work.

3. Manage the good.

See the good in people; it’s easy to focus on the bad parts. Write down 5 things you notice and admire about your children and your co-workers/employees.

4. Know who’s in charge.

Just as children need to be molded, corrected, and many times reeled back in, so do team members and employees. If you are in a position of leadership, use maturity and wisdom to communicate expectations.

5. Overnight Celebrity.

Embrace the process; don’t be discouraged if progress doesn’t happen overnight. Just as it takes 9 months to have a baby, it takes years to raise a child, and it also takes time to become a great and a respected leader.

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The Power of Unhappiness

“Discontent is the first step in the progress of a man or a nation.”
― Oscar Wilde

What are you tired of? It could be that very thing that is pushing you closer to greatness. No one likes to feel discontent, unhappy, defeated, sadness, misery, uneasy, or dissatisfied. In fact most of us do everything in our power not to experience those feelings. As much as we don’t like it, it can be that very thing that is pushing you to the next level in your career, school, life and most of all pushing you to CHANGE.

Many businesses have been started, books written, and career changes have been attributed to discontent. Most people would never be where they are today if they never experienced some sort of disappointment or discontent. Look at Oprah, she grew up poor, raped at nine, pregnant at 14, counted out plenty of times, but look at her glory. Walt Disney was fired from his newspaper job because his boss said that he lacked imagination and good ideas (really? Walt Disney?), if he had never been fired would we know of the Disney empire today? Michael Jordan one of the greatest basketball players of all times, was cut from his High School basketball team, yet he used that discontent to work harder at his craft.

I could give you example after example of using your disappointments and discontent to your advantage and as an opportunity to push harder, do more, and take your life to the next level. My pastor always says “A setback is a setup for a comeback”! So if you are going through a tough time, don’t throw a pity party, dust yourself off and move closer to greatness.




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Does having kids kill your chance for a successful career?

Ever since Beyoncé announced her pregnancy in August at the VMA award’s the streets have been buzzing about whether having a baby would ruin her career. (on a side note) Congrats to Bey and Jay on their new baby girl Blue Ivy Carter born yesterday. This comment not only came from men but mainly women expressing disinterest in having kids or others having kids because their career would suffer. Being a working mother of two, I have to admit that it’s not easy working, going to school, and having kids….but it’s life for me. In my mind I can be only as successful as I allow myself to be. My question is why do many people have this misconception about having kids and careers? It’s not as if we haven’t seen healthy images of working women throughout our lifetime. Did you know that in 2010 61% of moms or moms-to-be were in the workforce and women owned 29% of all businesses in the U.S.? I just believe that women should be able to work, stay at home, run five businesses, run marathons, sing, help with homework, run for political office, preach, change diapers, write books, blog, model, rap, back flips, swim, teach, or whatever else they choose to do and be great mothers.

In the words of Sister Beyoncé…..

Who run the world? Girls

This goes out to all the women getting it in,
Get on your grind
To the other men that respect what I do
Please accept my shine

Boy you know you love it
How we’re smart enough to make these millions
Strong enough to bear the children
Then get back to business

What do you think? Does having kids kill your chance for a successful career?