What goes in eventually comes out! Literally and Figuratively! LOL
This post is sponsored by Bridgestone. All opinions are my own.
Earlier this month I attended a Bridgestone Tires “Drive and Learn” event at Toyota Park. Normally these events are held for car dealers, but their new initiative to educate moms brought a few of us mom bloggers to learn and also have a little fun too.
As a mother the most important asset is protecting your family and when you purchase a car the first thing you should look for is safety, but who knew your tires had such an impact on enhancing the safety of your car. Yea sure before attending this event I thought I was maintaining my tire safety by putting air when the tires were low and replacing them when needed. I never once considered my car’s performance when buying tires, all I needed to know was that the tires were brand new and in my price range.
After a quick lesson in Tires 101 and Car Care we hit the outdoor track, fun right? I was terrified! My ideal track is the route back and forth to my daughter’s school and while running a few minutes late. We test drove four different Bridgestone tires on the BMW 325s on a wet and slippery track. I never knew 30 mph could feel so fast. Don’t believe me? Check out this video.
Here are a few quick tips I learned:
1. Tire pressure is important! Just because the tire isn’t low doesn’t mean the pressure is correct. Check the label in your door to see the PSI your tire should be at. Also don’t ignore your cars pressure sensor.
2. You get what you pay for in tires. Don’t just buy for price! Buy for comfort and handling also.
3. In the wintertime, don’t wait until there’s snow on the ground to put on your winter tires. Put them on when you start to see your breath outdoors. It’s not about snow, but temperature.
4. Ditch the automatic car washes. Did you know those tracks could damage your tires or break off your tire sensors which can be costly?
5. Good tires can save money on gas. Who could stand a save a few bucks at the tank??
Learn more about tires at tiresafety.com
Who told me I had to be a perfect mother? Sure weren’t my two girls! Did my husband tell me? Nope! Did my mother tell me she was a perfect mother and I should be one too? Nope!
I have come to the realization that I have put unrealistic expectations on my children and myself to be perfect, and it’s pretty stressful. When you start out at perfect what else is there to strive for and how much further up can you go?
1. “You don’t have to be perfect to be “the” perfect parent for your kids.” Parents make mistakes, fly off the handle, lose their patience, forget about a school trip, or lose a favorite toy. Don’t beat yourself up! Start new and fresh, learn from each opportunity, and make the necessary changes.
2. “Perfect can be dangerous.” I want to raise well-rounded children that aren’t afraid to mess up or to fail, but can dust themselves off, get back up, and not be afraid to try again. I’ve witnessed too many adults who never experienced disappointment until adulthood and it rocked them to the core.
3. “Don’t have comparisonitis” Your parenting style might not be the same as your family member, co-worker, or friend. Do what works best for your household and family!
4. “Kids will be kids” They will fight, cry, kick, scream, embarrass you, make you late, sleep in your bed, lose things, forget things, forget to use the potty, make bad decisions, giggle too much in class, like the wrong boy, say they hate you. IT’S ALL RIGHT! Be “their” perfect parent and not “the” perfect parent…love, hug, kiss, and embrace them for who they are, cherish every moment you have. They love you and you love them and it’s all that matters.
Before you know it they will grow up and strive to be perfect people with perfect kids being the perfect parents having the perfect life putting plenty of profuse pressure on them. Don’t pass it on.
Two words most parents don’t like to hear in regards to their daughter:
2. Training bras
(There are a few more, but we won’t go into that)
It’s not like those are bad words, but they are indicators that “your baby” is growing up, and if you’re anything like me, you don’t necessarily have a problem with your child getting older, but you do mind them growing up.
I have a lot of friends and family members that are now taking that dreaded trip to the mall to buy their daughter their first training bra. Is it me or does “the change” seem to be happening younger and younger. I am so happy “the real change” for my oldest daughter is at least 6 or 7 years from now (wishful thinking). I have to begin praying for my husband’s acceptance of “the change” right now! A couple of months ago we were in a department store and I was looking through the clearance rack and spotted some $.50 training bras, I joked and said maybe I should buy a few of these because of the deal for when she get’s older. He rapidly shook his head and said, “I don’t want to think about that right now!”
My oldest daughter who is almost 6 is experiencing a different type of change, instead of training bras I went shopping for deodorant. Last summer I started noticing a change, so I started paying extra attention to those areas and using baby powder to stay fresh during the warmer months. Now that the summer is almost here, I realized that powder just wouldn’t do! I ventured to our local Walgreens and purchased Tom’s of Maine natural deodorant for her to try out. I’ll let you know how it goes!
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I want to hear from you! How old did your child start wearing deodorant or need a training bra? How did you cope with “the change”?
Have you ever known way too much and knowing too much got in the way of moving forward?
Sometimes knowing all the risks can make you fearful and ultimately hold you hostage from getting “it” done.
When you know too much it can hold you back from moving forward, therefore you make no decisions at all. Knowing too much can rob you of fresh perspective, a new outlook, and sensible thinking.
If you knew everything about planes you might not fly. If I knew everything about food, it would probably be only a few things I would eat. If I knew the outcome of every situation I might box myself in.
so with that said, “F” IT ALL, that’s right I said it! For-get-it-all!
Forget it all.
Forget what you know.
Go back and work on the business plan you researched so much you talked yourself out of it. Give that relationship a second chance; it’s not too late. How many times will we talk ourselves out of our future, by going with what we think we know? Punch fear in the face and “F” it all!
“You can only be afraid of what you think you know.”
― Jiddu Krishnamu
Growing up I remember every Saturday we got up earlier then should be allowed on a Saturday and we went to eat breakfast at OHOP (Original House of Pancakes for those who are unfamiliar). No matter how late I went to bed, rain or shine, we were there every single Saturday. It was an unspoken rule in our house that Saturday’s were Family Day. It is moments like those that shaped my life and created so many fun memories with my family, that I will never ever forget.
So a month ago we deemed Monday, “Fun Day” in the Terry Household. We let our oldest daughter pick what fun family activity we will do every Monday and we make it happen! We wanted to have something fun for our kids to look forward to as many summer weekends are usually filled with Weddings, Baby Showers, and BBQ’s, although the kids like to go, it is usually more fun for us than it is for them.
Creating a fun family day doesn’t require a ton of money, but some special time, and lots of love!
Check out these pics from our previous Monday Fun Day’s!
“It does not do to dwell on dreams and forget to live.”
― J.K. Rowling, Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone
Have you seen the movie “Click” with Adam Sandler? In the movie Adam Sandler is a hardworking father and husband and he is given a universal remote control which allows him to fast forward through certain moments in life such as sex, family time, and arguments, so he can get to fulfilling his career goals faster. His intentions of personal growth and creating a better life for his family were good, but in the meantime he was failing at being a husband, father, and friend, and missing out on so many valuable moments.
How many of us are guilty of this? Or know people that do this? They focus so much on their career, dreams, and providing for their family that they forget how to just LIVE. At some point we have to recommit ourselves to our spouses and families, and find some balance.
Here are a few thoughts to reflect on when you get in those busy type of situations:
1. Is what I’m focused on worth my attention?
2. Is my focus important or is it a reason to stay busy?
3. Busyness does not equal productivity.
4. Can I reschedule or hold off on what I’m doing until a later time/day?
5. It’s okay to relax and take a break, everyone including yourself will thank you!
Hey y’all! Thank you so much for hanging with me! Life has been sooooo crazy, with the busyness that already accompanies the summer months, Taylor graduating from Pre-K, and finishing up my graduate degree.
This has been a longgggggg road, three years filled with late nights, long papers, and never-ending threads. In between Morgan was born and life happened. But I’m still here! I am so grateful for all of the love and support that I experienced during this time. As an adult with a family, when you make the decision to go back to school it is not only an adjustment for you, but it is one for your entire household. When I get my degree on Sunday it should read LaChaya, Darrell, Taylor, Morgan, and Bernice because they were just as responsible for my completion of this than I am, I couldn’t have made it without my TEAM.
As I get ready to pull up to graduation on Sunday, my last stop on the Road to MBA; it is really a time of reflection for me. If I could be transparent with you guys…….I am nervous! The pressure is on to use all of this information that I learned, to continue to be productive, not get too relaxed, and not to mention student loans!!!!! As fear begins to sit in…..this feeling is all too familiar, this is the same feeling of uncertainty I felt when I first made the decision to start grad school…what if I fail…….what if the work is too much, and look at me now at the end of another chapter of life. I can’t wait to experience what the next chapter holds as I chase kids and BIG dreams.
Thanks again for your support!