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What’s the lesson here? Finding hope in your journey.

photoFor me one of the most awkward things in life is to be driving in a car and I have no idea where I am going. The GPS has the directions but it has this awkward silence sort of thing going on, and I’m wondering where the heck am I and really hoping it says something soon, because I don’t know any who enjoys being lost. At every intersection I am looking at the signs to see if it’s my turn or thinking am I headed in the right direction?? Isn’t that sort of how following your dreams are, you go down different streets praying you are going in the right direction, at every point in your journey you are anticipating each turn, because the last thing you want to do is to have to turn around and start all over again.

As much as I would like to fast forward through life to experience success and realize my dreams, I have to learn to appreciate the ride. Enjoy each level, because each level comes with a lesson, and I will need those lessons later in my journey. It’s ok to anticipate, because anticipation can be an anecdote to fear. If you anticipate certain things that come along with chasing your dreams or success, there is no room for fear, and when you anticipate those things you can be prepared.

I don’t know one person that would say they enjoy pain, heartache, disappointment, rejection, haters, frustration, setbacks, and failure. Without these negative feelings, I wouldn’t have experienced positive ones like resiliency, appreciation, faith, trust, confirmation, and flexibility.  As I look back on different situations I have experienced throughout my life and in my career, I can honestly say I appreciate the journey and understand the lesson. If I could go back there would many things I would choose to change, but many I wouldn’t because the lessons have been so beneficial.

Life is a road trip not a one-stop destination. Take the trip and enjoy the journey.

What life lessons have your journey taught you?


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“F” it All!

Have you ever known way too much and knowing too much got in the way of moving forward?

Sometimes knowing all the risks can make you fearful and ultimately hold you hostage from getting “it” done.

When you know too much it can hold you back from moving forward, therefore you make no decisions at all. Knowing too much can rob you of fresh perspective, a new outlook, and sensible thinking.

If you knew everything about planes you might not fly. If I knew everything about food, it would probably be only a few things I would eat. If I knew the outcome of every situation I might box myself in.

so with that said, “F” IT ALL, that’s right I said it! For-get-it-all!

Forget it all.

Forget what you know.

Move on.

Move forward.

Start fresh.

Go back and work on the business plan you researched so much you talked yourself out of it. Give that relationship a second chance; it’s not too late. How many times will we talk ourselves out of our future, by going with what we think we know? Punch fear in the face and “F” it all!

“You can only be afraid of what you think you know.”
― Jiddu Krishnamu


What would happen if you say no to fear?

You might actually live the life you dream of.
You might inspire someone else.
You might get out of that cubicle.
You might actually fall in love.
You might actually be truly happy, joyful, and peaceful.
You might actually climb out of the box.
You might change the lives of others.
You might find your dream job.
You might adopt.
You might get married.
You might plan for the future.
You might give.
You might work really hard.
You might chase your dreams.

Removing fear isn’t a guarantee that life will be easy, but removing fear is a guarantee that you won’t stay where you are.

How many times have I let fear stop me? Fear is meant to make you feel all alone as if no one else understands you. Boy is that wrong! I understand what it feels like to be paralyzed by fear and I realized that it is far better to be scared and move forward than to be scared and remain stagnant.

Which will you choose?


The thing about settling

Settling is a funny thing….well not really.

Check this out:

set·tled set·tling

Definition of SETTLE

intransitive verb
: to come to rest
a : to sink gradually or to the bottom b : to become clear by the deposit of sediment or scum c : to become compact by sinking
a : to become fixed, resolved, or established <a cold settled in his chest> b : to establish a residence or colony <settled in Wisconsin> —often used with down
a : to become quiet or orderly b : to take up an ordered or stable life —often used with down <marry and settle down>
How many people settle for the wrong mate, the wrong career, don’t pursue their dreams, settle for C’s rather than push for A’s from their children, and become comfortable in our right now. Look at part 2 of the definition:
to sink gradually or to the bottom b : to become clear by the deposit of sediment or scum c : to become compact by sinking.
I don’t know about you but I don’t want my dreams, my family, or any other part of my life to gradually sink to the bottom out of fear or comfort. I want every area of my life to grow and float to the top.
So here’s the challenge, start our small, pick one area of your life and practice getting out of your comfort zone. Don’t quit your job or leave your husband/wife (lol), but pick one thing and see how it feels to be FREE.
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Get out of my way!

Get out of my way!!!! Sorry…..I wasn’t talking to you, I was talking to myself.

“A sign of wisdom and maturity is when you come to terms with the realization that your decisions cause your rewards and consequences. You are responsible for your life, and your ultimate success depends on the choices you make.”
Denis Waitley

As I get older, I really begin to realize that the only person that can stop me from being successful or completing things that I am working on is……ME. How many great ideas has God given me? How many opportunities have I passed up, because I didn’t speak up? How many opportunities have I missed out on. The answer is A LOT! Fear is a crazy thing, we will pray about stuff and ask God to move and when he gives us the green light, fear steps in and stops us. As the quote states, your decisions cause your rewards and consequences, and I want to stop talking about chasing my dreams and ideas, and actually move to the place of action and eventually completion.

I have to stand up and make the choice to stop playing defense with myself, and allow myself to get to the hoop and score. I have the tools I need, I have the help, the only thing is missing is for me to get out of my own way and sit down and watch God work. I think for many people it is a fear of being successful, all the “what if” questions that we plague ourselves with. For others, it could be complacency, we stop reaching for more and become comfortable right where we are.

Here are a few tips for getting out of your own way:

1. Pray about it. Give everything that you fear to God. Pray that he leads you in the right direction and don’t be afraid to move when he gives it to you.

2. Stop thinking about the “what if’s”. Thinking about them never got anyone that has a successful track record anywhere.

3. Find an accountability partner. Link up with someone that you don’t mind sharing your goals and struggles with and have them hold you accountable.

4. As Nike says, “Just do it”

What is it that is in your way? Whatever it is choose today, to get out of the way.