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12 Inspiring Quotes For When You’re Stuck in Between

I love inspiring quotes! If you’re a regular reader of One Haute Mommi or follow me on social media, you are sure to get a regular dose of quotes from me. One of the hardest places to be in life is in between. When you’re in between, you’re not quite where you want to be but also not where you feel you should be. Waiting can be tough, even for the strongest person. During my most difficult moments of waiting, typically when I was searching for my purpose it seemed like the one of the longest times in my life. Take it from me…the wait was totally worth it. If you’re in between this post is for you, if you’re not in between keep this one in your back pocket for a time when you’ll need it.

Here are 12 inspiring Quotes For When You’re Stuck in Between:

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What’s a quote that keeps you inspired when you’re in between? Share it below in the comments! Don’t forget to share this post with a friend who may need it.


5 things we can learn from Misty Copeland

Yesterday, Misty Copeland became the first African-American Principal ballerina in the American Ballet Theatres 75-year history. A principal dancer is a dancer at the highest rank within a professional dance company. Throughout her life, she has broken through multiple glass ceilings and overcome obstacles that would have caused most to quit. Her passion is to be admired and her story to be used as a lesson to young girls all over the world. Here are 5 things I believe we can all learn from her journey.

1. Timing is everything

“It’s rare that someone finds it so late, falls in love with it, has the passion, has the gift, has all of these things that it takes to make it” -Misty Copeland

Unlike most professional ballerina’s who began dancing and gymnastics at very young ages, Misty didn’t start taking ballet until she was 13 which is considered late for ballerinas in training. With no prior training within months, she had the ability to mimic tough choreography and began to excel. She had the capacity to learn training in months that it took others to learn in years. Timing is everything, never compare your journey to that of someone else.

2. In the words of Taylor Swift, the Hater’s gonna hate…Shake it off

“You can do anything you want, even if you’re being told negative things. Stay strong and find motivation”-Misty Copeland

She consistently faced discrimination from the beginning and surprisingly still battles through it today. At one point, she was told she didn’t have the body nor the talent for ballet. It was never easy to shake off, even at some points Misty wanted to quit. There were times she doubted that an African American woman would make it her level. She turned disappointment and doubt into opportunity and inspiration for the generations ahead.

3. Passion strengthens talent

“You must have the passion, strength, and belief that you can become anything”-Misty Copeland

It doesn’t matter where you’re from. If you have the passion like Misty, you can be the best at what you do. (via Time Magazine). Finding ballet gave Misty a love she never knew existed inside of her. She danced through stomach pains, migraine headaches and being an unlikely ballerina. Tenacity such as this is fueled by passion and can only strengthen the natural talent inside of you.

4. Your beginning doesn’t have to determine your present

“You must have the passion, strength, and belief that you can become anything”-Misty Copeland

Misty one of six children, growing up poor, single mother, and at one point living in a motel. She could have allowed her past to stop her or as a crutch, but she kept pushing, she kept dancing and has never stopped. You have the power to move beyond where you are. You will be surprised. You have the capacity to be someone great no matter how the beginning of your story started out.

 5. You have what you say

“It’s my goal to become, the first African-American principal dancer with ABT”-Misty Copeland

Many times dreams can seem unattainable. One of the biggest things that stood out to me about Misty’s journey was her ability always to see beyond where she was. She knew if she was going to keep climbing the levels of ballet she had to speak it aloud. While unpopular, in 2014 she told the New Yorker“It’s my goal to become, the first African-American principal dancer with ABT”. A year later the dream has come to past. Misty’s incredible story has opened the doors to many little ballerinas to come and inspired us all to keep pushing and not to be afraid to break the mold in industry’s around the world.

Haute Mom’s Have Purpose + Camesha Gosha

Haute Mom’s Have Purpose is an interview series that features “Haute Mommi’s” who are not only experiencing great success in their careers, but also are present and active in their homes and personal lives. Let’s be inspired by the stories and advice by Moms who are just like us, Haute Moms with Purpose. 

Camesha is such a breath of fresh air! Our blogs have very similar missions to see moms be their best at motherhood, but also in their careers. She wants to change the face of motherhood through seeing moms inspired, motivated, and most of all happy! Read more about Camesha below and don’t forget to visit her beautiful website!

|Briefly introduce yourself and your passion/purpose.| 

I’m Camesha Gosha of Camesha.com. I’m a mama, wife, author + former network TV writer/producer. I’ve made some huge changes in my life to allow me to stay at home with my kids. It’s been a crazy journey but one I’m thankful for. My passion is encouraging other moms to find and follow their passions/dreams. After I had kids, I heard that my dreams would have to be put on the back burner and that just didn’t sit right with me. I didn’t see a reason that I should wait until my kids are adults before I start following my dreams. From modeling to authoring a book, I’ve made it happen while being a mama. My goal is to be an awesome mom while following my dreams.

|What’s your favorite quote or saying?| 

My favorite quote is “There’s freedom waiting for you on the breezes of the sky. And you ask “What if I fall?” Oh, but my darling, what if you fly? – Erin Hanson I love it so much, I just had a pillow made with the quote on it.

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|What’s on your iPod?|

On my iPod right now are toddler tunes! I have all of these Disney and Sesame Street stations for my kids. I mix it up every now and then with Bruno Mars, Pharrell Williams and Michael Jackson. They LOVE Michael Jackson.

|What are you reading now?|

Right now, I’m reading Launch by Jeff Walker. It’s about launching products for sale online. Learning lots of good stuff!

|How many kids do you have and what are their ages?|

I have two children. I have a 5-year-old son and a 2-year-old daughter. They keep my hands full! Never a dull moment.

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|How do you find balance?|
Finding balance is a day to day thing for me. Some days are definitely better than others. It’s a perfect day when I feel like the kids have gotten what they need (play, learning, etc) and then there’s time in the day for me to do something for me. I really try to make that time. It makes me a better mama. When my daughter takes her nap, I have time to relax a bit, work a bit or whatever else it is I feel like I need for me. If I’ve met my needs it’s so much easier for me to meet theirs.
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|Was there ever a moment where you felt lost in motherhood?| 
 Making the switch from being a working mom to a SAHM had me feeling lost for a minute. I had to find my identity in this new role. I was determined to be here for my kids and just as determined to be there for myself. I didn’t want to get lost in all I do for them and have nothing for myself. With two kids who need me for just about everything, that’s not always easy to do.
|How important is having support?|
I’ve found that having support is vital. I learned the hard way because I don’t have much. My husband and I live here in Los Angeles with no family around. All of our family is on the other side of the country. We rely on each other to make things happen.
|How did you discover your purpose?|
Discovering my purpose was quite the journey. I should have known that part of it involved writing. That’s all I’ve ever done. Motivating others again wasn’t something I thought about. It’s just something I’ve always done. I love to see people doing + living in a way that makes them happy. If I can serve to motivate along the way – awesome!Working Hard-HMHP
|How important is it for mothers to find their purpose?|
I think it is vital for any of us to find our purpose. I have a special passion for moms though. As a mom, I know it can be hard to find time and brain space for anything else outside of our families. At the same time, it’s even more important that we find that time. Making room for purpose not only serves us but our kids too. I tend to think of it this way – the kids will grow up and move out. When that day comes, I want to be able to say I took the time to invest in myself by finding and living my purpose. Being an example for them to live on purpose is part of my job as their mama.
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|What’s the best advice you’ve ever received?|
Someone shared this quote with me once and it really stuck. “Life is not a dress rehearsal.” Every since I let that sink in I have worked hard to live the life I want right now. Knowing that we only get one go round makes me not want to waste time not being happy.
|How do you stay inspired?|
I stay inspired by always looking forward. When things seem to be going left, I think about what the end result of all my hard work will look like. That keeps me inspired to keep working toward it.
|Have you ever experienced Mommy Guilt?|
I’ve definitely experienced mommy guilt. As a working mom, I was worried I wasn’t spending enough time with my kids.I worked in television and it’s not always family friendly. Things can change at the last hour and late nights weren’t uncommon. I felt like I was missing too much. Now that I’m at home, I feel guilty about all the time my daughter gets with me that my son didn’t. There’s always something to feel guilty about. We just have to figure out how to manage it and balance the guilt with the good stuff.
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|What is some advice you would like to share with other Moms?|
My advice for other moms is to make sure to enjoy the journey of motherhood. It looks different for all of us. It has its ups and downs but it really is special. The bond and the influence we have with the little people we bring into this world is nothing short of a miracle. Try to remember that when they’re bouncing off the walls and you wanna pull your hair out. lol
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A letter to my daughters on Mother’s Day

This Mother’s Day, Time Magazine featured letters from Celebrity Moms to their daughters. This inspired me to write my own letter to my daughters.

To my girls….My inspiration

Did you know you girls are my inspiration? I wanted to take a few moments this Mother’s Day to let you know how much you both mean to me. I’m so proud to be your mom. When I was a teenager, like most kids my age I said “I’m not having kids!” Not because I didn’t like kids, but because for some reason I thought having kids meant life was over and I wouldn’t be able to do things that made me happy. How selfish was that and boy was I wrong. Without trying you changed my life. A huge part of my life began when I became your mom. I had a new view of life and was inspired like never before to follow my dreams and to make sure that I was the best example for you.

There are a few things I want you to know. It’s so important to me that you both know who I am and what I stand for and believe in…to know my heart. No other title I could ever have would be more important than being a wife and your mother. Whether we are having impromptu dance parties, taking our morning rides to school every morning or when you curl up with me in bed. Every day I spend with you is truly a gift. I know you will grow older and won’t think I’m cool anymore or be unhappy with the tough decisions I make on your behalf, but remember I’m your mom and I love you more than life itself.

I love you girls…love mom.

When people don’t support your dream

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downloadOn a more serious note…Believe it or not, I started writing this post in July 2013. I added to it several times but never pursued completing it because I didn’t want to sound as if I was resentful. Earlier this week a conversation between fellow bloggers on a network I’m a part of led to a nudge in my back and awakened these words from my safe place. Most of my posts begin like that, I go back and forth, I’m going to share this, nope not sharing that, and eventually I share and it never fails…someone reaches out to me and says thank you that was for me. So here I am again…if you’ve chosen to follow your dreams, start a business, write a book, go back to school, quit your job, and support is lacking…this is for you. Be Encouraged.
What to do when people don’t support you?
When you make a huge ginormous decision to do something great the first people, you will assume to help or support you would be the people closest to you, your friends and family. Unfortunately, this is not always the case! You send out a mass text, emails, bring it up at family gatherings and the people closest to you still don’t give their support. When this happens it’s easy to think, what is wrong with me, am I really walking in my purpose, and you begin to doubt your gift and decisions.I have a great support system, but even I have friends and family members who have probably never read this blog, commented, liked, or shared one post, and I’m okay with that. I have people who are invested, who read almost every post, comment frequently, call, and send me inspiring text messages and emails. I’ve learned over time, that’s what matters most.
Here are three things you need to do when people don’t support you:
1. Don’t take it personal, It’s not about you!
Unless it’s some true hateration going on, it’s not about you. Your friends and family aren’t necessarily setting out to not support your dream or venture. It could be that they don’t understand what you’re doing and don’t know how to help you. Personally, I think that silence from some people is golden. I would rather have someone not say anything at all than to give me all of the reasons why I shouldn’t do something and show opposition.
2. Support someone else’s dream.
You want support, giving support is the best way to get it in return. Instead using useless energy focusing on what someone else isn’t doing, turn that energy into the fuel you need to push someone else further. Many times we freely tell people what our dreams are, but we fail to inquire about theirs. Simply ask someone “What’s your dream and how can I support you?”
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 3. Be too focused to notice.
Don’t pause for the applause. Your purpose isn’t tied to support, it’s linked to investment. Find a network of people who will support you and invest in your dream, these are the people who will assist you in taking your dream or business to the next level. Don’t allow who you don’t have to, to make you feel like giving up. Stay focused on your goal.
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I saw this quote awhile ago “Friends won’t start supporting you until strangers start celebrating you.” Do you think this is true? Leave me a comment below.

Haute Mom’s Have Purpose + Dr. Tara Jenkins

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Haute Mom’s Have Purpose is an interview series that features “Haute Mommi’s” who are not only experiencing great success in their careers, but also are present and active in their homes and personal lives. Let’s be inspired by the stories and advice by Moms who are just like us, Haute Moms with Purpose. 

I love this lady! She is one of the nicest people I know! When I first decided to launch this interview series, she was the first person I thought of. She probably doesn’t know this, but she is one of the reasons I began to seek out my purpose. After one bible study at my Chicago church home, she introduced me to a book that forever changed my outlook on life “Just Enough Light for the Step I’m On” by Stormie Omartian and I have never been the same. Enough about me…

Dr. Tara Jenkins is an amazing wife, mother, creative communicator of God’s word, a passionate leader, she sings, plays the piano, can spit spoken word and 16 bars with the best of them, proficient in ballet, and can tap dance in 4 inch heels! She is the beautiful wife and Chief Encouragement Officer to Pastor and Singer Charles Jenkins whose single “This Means War” is climbing the Billboard charts and brand new video was just released this week! Click here to watch the official video”This Means War” Keep up with Dr. Tara via her blog titled “Chief Encouragement Officer” at tarajenkins.org 

|Briefly introduce yourself and your passion/purpose.| 

I’m Tara Jenkins, I was born and raised in the small town of Jackson, Tennessee, but I am now learning how to raise 3 amazing kids who were born in the big city of Chicago! My passion and purpose is to motivate women, wives and girls to maximize their potential in every area of their lives.

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|What’s your favorite quote or saying?| 

One of my favorite quotes is, “Never accept a ‘no’ from someone who never had the power to give you a ‘yes’ in the first place. I have seen others be discouraged by critics and I have experienced it myself. However, your discouragers should never frustrate you to the point of inactivity! I like to encourage the discouraged by saying, “Do what you were created to do, not what you are expected to do…”

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|What’s on your iPod?|

My iPod may have every genre of music that’s on iTunes! From a little country from Keith Urban, Lady Antebellum(thanks to my Tennessee roots), to a little pop with Vintage Bieber(thanks to the kids), a little stepping music from R. Kelly(thanks to 18 years in Chicago), a little hip hop from Doug E. Fresh(because of my love for all types of dance), and of course I have countless gospel artists on my iPod, especially Charles Jenkins who is the reason I am a mother!!(Lol)

|What are you reading now?|

My reading is usually geared toward preparing to teach from the bible. Right now, I am enjoying the book of Proverbs, which has 31 chapters, so it’s a perfect way to read a chapter of wisdom every day.

|How many kids do you have and what are their ages?|

I am blessed to have 3 kids, who are 11 & 10-year old girls and a 6-year old boy.

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|How do you find balance?|
One of my mentors taught me early on, that life is not a balancing act, it’s a juggling act. There are certain times when you have to be hands on in a particular situation and then seasons change. The key is knowing what can hang in the air when!
|Was there ever a moment where you felt lost in motherhood?| 
The only reason, that I don’t feel lost every day is because I have motherhood guides around at all times! I feel like I am learning as I go. You can easily feel lost if you’re isolated and don’t seek advice.
|How is having support important?|
Trying to be a mother without support is a guaranteed way to self-destruct. Women must relinquish the desire and control to do-it-all and be honest about what areas support is needed. It is our pride that feeds this unhealthy cycle. The Proverbs 31 woman had staff that helped her handle her role!
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|How did you discover your purpose?|
My purpose is consistently revealed through my frustrations. It bothers me internally to see beautiful, talented women, wives, and girls live as a lesser version of themselves. So I have a passion for convening these groups and equip them to be more! If someone is seeking their true purpose, they should ask themselves what bothers them the most!
|How important is it for mothers to find their purpose?|
 It is imperative for mothers to discover their purpose because our children are our greatest imitators. The kids need to see this process of living in purpose unfold in their parents’ lives so that they will know how to do the same.
|What’s the best advice you’ve ever received?|
The best advice I received was to relinquish doing what others can do and invest my time in doing those things that only I am created to do.
|How do you stay inspired?|
I stay inspired by having a circle of friends who are go-getters and not go-sitters. Their risk-taking personalities keep me out of the box!
|What is some advice you would like to share with other Moms?|
I want every mom to remember to have fun in each season. The hustle and bustle of baby bottles, diapers, doctors appointments, then school, homework, and extracurricular activities can drain the fun out of life. When it’s possible, plan a do-nothing day to chill, laugh and wear footed pajamas together all day long!

Connect with Dr. Tara Twitter | Web


Hello Again. Welcome to 2015.

Instagram Post-2I’m an 80’s baby and growing up in the 90s, remixes reigned supremee on our radios and the ever so popular single cassette tape I popped into my boom box. Many songs had remixed versions that seemed to go harder than the original versions, so much so that if today I played you a version of certain songs you would look at me side-eyed as if that wasn’t the song you remembered. Who could ever forget the infamous remix of Jodeci’s “Come and talk to me“, Destiny’s Child “No No No Part 2”, or Brandy’s “I want to be down ” remix featuring Queen Latifah, MC Lyte, and YoYo.
Have you ever seen a vintage home originally built in the 1800’s or early 1900’s completely revitalized with modern touches and it’s original detail giving it the essence of a completely new home?Beautiful right? Diddy thought he invented the remix, but I beg to differ. As I began to pray, plan and strategize for 2015 I began to throw out words I needed to model my year after. As you know in 2014 my word for the year was Jump (if you have not read it you can click here and here to be brought up to speed). As I began to throw out ideas words like revitalize, repurpose, refocus, and readjust kept coming up. Then the word Again came up. I repeated Hello Again.
I write stuff down, that’s what I do. Sometimes I write in a Moleskine notebook, other times really small on post-it notes, and most of the time in Evernote. As I glanced through these notes, I realized that year after year I came up with new ideas, new business plans, new to-dos, but eventually moved on to newer shinier ideas. So what happened to those ideas i never worked on do they just sit in my notebook like a trophy on a mantle as to say look what i thought of or do I take them and breathe life into them again. Now I’m not saying every idea or thought needs to be resurrected, just the ones that mirror my purpose, where I currently am, or where I’m looking to go in the future.
I found my purpose in Again, so I’m just crazy enough to think that maybe God hid some other treasures in thoughts, ideas, and visions he previously gave me. God doesn’t only give us new things, but his specialty is making all things new! 2015 will be my year of Again! Hello Again.
Jump again.
 Begin again.
 Born again.
Dream again.
Laugh again.
Love again.
Start again.
Succeed again.
 Start over again.
Write again.
Breathe again.
Create again.
 Live again.
 Try again.
Revisit again.
Find purpose again.
I saw this meme on social media a few times over the past week and it is so fitting to this post. There is something in each one of our lives we need to revisit or pursue again. That might be the one thing that introduces you to your purpose.
What are some areas in your life you need to say Hello Again to? Leave me a comment below!
P.S., Please, please (don’t make me beg) take my survey as I look to enhance in 2015! It’s only open for a few more days! Click here to take my 2015 Reader Survey.
Be encouraged! Happy New Year! #HelloAgain2015

Jump Series: 2014, The Year I Jumped (Part Two)

(Click here to read Part One of the Jump Series)
In almost every language imaginable, the word quit is seen as a negative connotation. It means you gave up, said forget it, or even to some shows a sign of mental weakness, but not so. In many cases, quitting is a sign of strength, obedience, and necessity for many.
In my culture you find a job, you work, and if they will have you…you retire. You don’t quit. Who leaves comfort for uncertainty and familiarity for the unknown…. I did.
From early on in my childhood I can vividly remember knowing where I wanted to be, but wasn’t too sure about the middle part. Have you ever had the perfect sleeping situation set up? You had the perfect pillows, the mattress was comfy, your blanket was nice and soft…but you couldn’t sleep. I’ve had many moments like that in my life…the setup was perfect…but I could never clearly get comfortable in the middle to get to my ideal end.
 In high school I was a below average student, I was accepted into college through a program who gave students with below average grades and low test scores a “chance”. I took this chance and throughout my college tenure I received several dean list awards and graduated with honors. In college, I immediately declared my major in Marketing, I had always been fascinated with advertising and how it was connected to various brands, but soon changed my major because I felt like the business program was too difficult and I became distracted and decided to take a different route.
The day after my college graduation, I interviewed for an Admissions Advisor position at an online University through a staffing agency. After the interview I received a call back from the office manager stating they didn’t choose me for the position, but would like to hire me for a different position within the agency itself. I worked there for almost 3 years, and I was fired. I was devastated, I remember crying thinking who would fire me?? I later realized God was trying to take me somewhere else, but I couldn’t get there unless I let some things go. That summer after I was fired, I looked for job after job, had interview after interview and nothing. I decided to make the most of my time and signed up at my church to volunteer. A volunteer opportunity turned into a temporary opportunity that turned into a full-time position. I couldn’t deny that God had a plan for me, but I just wasn’t quite sure what that plan was. Throughout those years I learned so much and was exposed to a wealth of opportunities and resources. One day I had the opportunity to sit in a branding workshop and a light bulb went off in my head and in my heart. It was as if I was reunited with my natural instinct. I had been reunited with a passion I had totally buried with life and forgotten about. My middle was finally clear! Part of me felt revived and ignited, but another part of me felt like a complete idiot for wasting so much energy focusing my career in directions I wasn’t meant to go in.
Proverbs 3:5 (NKJ)
5 Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; 6 In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths.
My life has been filled with these different moments and many different paths…paths I didn’t choose for myself, but ordered by God. I prayed, fasted, and seriously sought God’s plan for my next path and when he brought it to me, there was no way I could step back from the edge. Many times on your way to your next level you will have to separate from something and an old part of you has to die. For me it wasn’t just a job, it was a family. To leave was one of the hardest decisions I think I’ve ever had to make, but I had to be true to myself and open to where God wanted to take my family and I.
One night during dinner, my seven-year old said grace at our table, and after grace she asked if she could add something. She continued, “Thank you God for this beautiful house, thank you for Mommy’s new job, and thank you that she is following her dream that she dreamed of since she was a little girl. Amen.” That’s why I quit.
I hope this post inspires you to jump and to step out on faith in some areas in your life, and to also revisit areas you may have forgotten about. My word for 2015 is Again. I believe God is going to use us in some areas we have forgotten about or that have become buried by life. Many times it’s easier to come up with something new rather than to finish what we started.
Leave me a comment, what have you started in 2014 or previous years that you need to finish in 2015? What’s your word or phrase for 2015? 

Planting Positive Seeds in our Children


Raising daughters is complicated. There is so much at stake. The seeds you plant as children have direct effects on the woman they will become. During my 7 years of parenting, I’m still learning the difficult lesson of what I call “parenting by personality”. Each of my daughters has two individual personalities and these personalities need individual methods of discipline, tone of voice, and love. Lately I’ve noticed. my oldest daughter, who just turned 7 a few months ago has been seeking attention from me. If I compliment my 4 year old, she asks why didn’t I compliment her, if I lay down on the couch there is a constant battle of who will takeover the 80% or 20% of my small framed body. The other day my daughter yelled out words (I didn’t think I would have to hear until she was a teenager) “You don’t love me, as much as you love…”. I started to get angry and I blurted out “If I didn’t love you I would not…” Then I thought to myself, why am I trying to explain the infinite nature of a mother’s love to a 7 year old!


One of my good friends, Wendy, introduced me to Joel Osteen radio on Sirius XM radio (Channel 128 if you’re interested in checking it out). I spend almost 3 hours a day in the car on my commute to and from work, so a quality mix of music, talk, and inspiration is very valuable to me. As I listened on my way home a message “Seeds of Greatness” started to play. In the message Pastor Joel began to speak on planting seeds of greatness in other people and how this has a direct affect on how far they go, how they feel about themselves, and ultimately drowning out the negative voices within themselves and the negative words spoken over them by others.

That night on my drive home, I began to reflect and it constantly lead me back to love. Most times instead of scolding our children or attempting to correct their behavior, sometimes they just need our reassurance and love. I decided to send her a message on my way home.


This year has been a year of change for my family, but especially our children. They moved away from their family and friends whom they have great relationships with, left the only school they have known and have had to adapt to a totally new environment. So a little crying is ok. The world is a scary and judgmental place even at the age of 7. So as parents it is our job, to plant and water positive seeds in our children to outweigh the negative seeds the world will attempt to plant in them. It’s funny how kids totally operate from instinct…as I planted seeds in her, she turned around and planted positive seeds right back into me. Thanks baby 🙂

As a child its natural to compliment and to build people up, somehow along the way as adults life tends to make us callous and afraid to be vulnerable to other people. Thus, it can be easier to name all of the things about people that we don’t like versus writing a list of what we do like.

Homework assignment: Identify 5 people in your life and practice planting positive seeds in there lives. Tell them what you love about them, share with them future potential, and encouragement. What do you have to lose?

Let me know how it goes! I would love to hear from you. Leave me a comment below or send me an email to info@onehautemommi.com.

Hello December, Goodbye 2014. 10 things you need to do before 2015.

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Is it me or do years go by faster than they did when you were a kid? 2014…what a difference a year makes. There is no way in January you could have told me I would be where I am in December.

“Be totally open to go where life wants to take you”. -LaChaya Terry (Like this quote? Click here to tweet it)


I don’t know one person who doesn’t look forward to the beginning of a new year. We see glimpse’s of new opportunities, renewed vision, and determination. Why do we limit these feelings to New Years when we have the same chance of newness every morning?

Today is December 1st, which means we have 31 days left in 2014. 31 days to use wisely. If you want 2015 to be a successful year. It doesn’t start on January 1 at midnight. It starts today.

“Your new year, starts today”-LaChaya Terry (click here to tweet this quote)



Here are 10 things you need to do before 2015.

1. Plan, plan, plan. “By failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail.” ― Benjamin Franklin

2. Set you focus for the year. Many times we don’t complete our goals because we either set too many or not enough. In December, set a focus for your year and attempt to ensure that your big goals fit into a specific category.

3. Put an action plan in place. Write it down, create a special calendar, or utilize your reminders on your cellphone. Whatever you have to do to keep you on task in 2015. We can all have great vision and ideas, but if we don’t put a plan of action into place many times we end up doing nothing.

4. Get organized. While things are quiet in December, use this time to become more organized. Brush off those time management skills, this way in January you aren’t trying to figure it all out, but you are ready to hit the ground running.

5. Start working out now. We all know the gyms will be packed in January filled with people fulfilling their New Year resolutions. Get started now while the gym is empty from all the people who rather not work out during the holiday season. Put your plan in motion now and by January you will already be in your rhythm.

6. Ask someone to be your accountability partner. Find a partner to keep you encouraged, but also to keep you focused. It’s easy to get off track when you’re the only person who knows your to-do list.

7. Join 5 new groups on Facebook or subscribe to 5 new blogs that pertain to  your yearly focus.

8. Put your dream items on your Christmas list. Many times we tend to stick to items we want and shy away from items we need, but if in 2015 you plan on starting a business or working on your dream, a new sweater can wait. Don’t be afraid to put on your employee grab bag list or other Christmas lists planners, organizers, Go daddy or Legal Zoom gift cards. Your dream will thank you later.

9. Assign yourself at least one challenge in 2015 to disrupt your comfort zone. Take small baby steps of faith in 2015. Do something at least once in 2015 that totally terrifies you.

10. Spend time reflecting on 2014. What worked for you in 2014? What didn’t work? What were your successes or failures? All of these questions and more can help you do more of what worked and help you change habits or add new habits to make 2015 a successful one.

11. Bonus: What something you need to do in 2014 to ensure your success in 2015? Leave me a comment below!