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Haute Mom’s Have Purpose + Christine St. Vil

Christine St. Vil-HMHP

Haute Mom’s Have Purpose is an interview series that features “Haute Mommi’s” who are not only experiencing great success in their careers, but also are present and active in their homes and personal lives. Let’s be inspired by the stories and advice by Moms who are just like us, Haute Moms with Purpose. 

I met Christine through a bloggers group we are both a part of. She is such as inspiration not only to mothers like myself but has a wealth of knowledge as a business woman when it comes to entrepreneurship, blogging, purpose, social media, and empowerment. Christine’s vision is similar to mine, she wants to change the face of motherhood through helping women take charge of their lives by defining and igniting their purpose in both life and business. She is a dynamic speaker, social media guru, author, and best of all a wife and mother. Read more about Christine below and be sure to check out her website and her highly acclaimed book Whose Shoes Are You Wearing? 12 Steps to Uncovering the Woman You Really Want to Be. 

|Briefly introduce yourself and your passion/purpose.| 

My name is Christine St.Vil and I’m the Founder/CEO of Moms ‘N Charge™, a division of Purpose Driven Media, LLC. My passion is helping moms pursue their goals and dreams, in addition to being a great mom. I’m also passionate about teaching and training, and love helping women in business (especially moms) create a social media strategy that aligns with their life vision/purpose.

|What’s your favorite quote or saying?| 

One of my favorite quotes is: “Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.” It’s a great reminder that we don’t have to always have every detail in place, and every check box marked off. The key is to staying in action and doing what you can with what you have.

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|What’s on your iPod?|

Ha! A mix of everything. I mostly listen to gospel music, love Mary Mary, Tye Tribbett, Yolanda Adams, William McDowell and others. But I also have Kelly Clarkson, Janet Jackson, Usher and everything in between. My most recent and current favorite download is the “Beyond the Lights” soundtrack and Annie (for the kids, or course lol).

|What are you reading now?|

I just finished Act Like a Success, Think Like a Success (GREAT book). And I’m now reading Angel’s Laws of Blogging (Founder of Concrete Loop.com).

|How many kids do you have and what are their ages?|

I have 3 beautiful babies, one boy (age 7) and two girls (ages 5 & 3).

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|How do you find balance?|
I actually cringe when I hear “balance”. I honestly don’t believe that there’s a such thing. But I do believe that I juggle things well. As I stated in this previous article, you can’t give 100% to everything at the same time. If you’re rocking it out in one area of your life, another area is probably not as stellar. And that will probably change from day-to-day, week to week. And guess what? It’s okay. Some days I’m killing it with homeschooling and some days I’m not. Some days I’m killing it in my business and some days I’m not. And I’m okay with that. (if you want to link to my full article on this topic, here it is: Motherhood and Balance Don’t Mix & Here’s Why)
|Was there ever a moment where you felt lost in motherhood?| 
Absolutely! I talk about it all the time, especially because I know so many other moms can relate. I definitely became a “victim of identity theft” due to motherhood after I had my third child and became
Absolutely! I talk about it all the time, especially because I know so many other moms can relate. I definitely became a “victim of identity theft” due to motherhood after I had my third child and became an SAHM (Stay at home Mom). I didn’t realize how much I had allowed my corporate job to define who I was, and how much I enjoyed that part of my identity until I no longer had it. At the time, going to work gave me a sense of purpose. But becoming an SAHM, I struggled to figure out what that was. I struggled with postpartum depression after I had my third child and a lot of it, I believe, had to do with not really knowing and loving who I was deep down.
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|How important is having support?|
I can’t stress enough about the importance of having a support system. When I coach my clients who say they don’t have family or friends close by, or who support them, I encourage them to go out and create their own support system. When I was going through PPD, I found support in online communities, from complete strangers that could relate to exactly what I was going through. I also looked for mommy support groups in my area and ended up joining my local Mocha Moms group.
|How did you discover your purpose?|
When I started my company, I knew that I was on a mission to help moms discover their own purpose, and not allow the mom guilt to keep them from pursuing their goals and dreams. But when I co-authored my first book with my sister last year, I think that was the defining moment that I was on the right track. The testimonials we’ve received from people who have been able to forgive themselves for nothing they had control over, or from those who needed to hear exactly what we shared, has been humbling. It’s made us push even more to help more women to uncover the woman they were truly meant to be.
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|How important is it for mothers to find their purpose?|
 I truly think it’s so important. I wrote an article about this and someone made a comment that they wished their mom had followed her own dreams, because years later, she felt cheated as her daughter. I believe we have to set the example for our children. How can we encourage our children to go after their dreams, and to encourage them that they can do anything and be anything they want, but yet, we’re not doing the same? I want my children to be inspired and see me as that example to go after what they want in life.
|What’s the best advice you’ve ever received?|
I’ve received so much great advice over the years, especially since starting my business. But one of the best pieces of advice, when you’re pursuing your purpose and passion in life, is that it’s not about me. It’s not about you. Fear will creep up. Anxiety and stress will set in. But when you take the focus off of you and on to the person/people who are waiting to hear your message, it makes things much easier.
|How do you stay inspired?|
By connecting with people like you who have a similar mindset and drive. I listen to motivational podcasts and YouTube clips almost daily. I read inspirational quotes daily and as much as possible, I try to eliminate the negativity that I engage with.
|Have you ever experienced Mommy Guilt?|
I definitely have! I think it’s a requirement of being a mom 🙂 But one of the things that has helped tremendously (since my mommy guilt stemmed from trying to build my business and trying to start homeschooling and spending time with the kids) is involving the kids. I talk to them about what I do, the classes I teach. They know all about my book, Whose Shoes Are You Wearing? They can tell you about Moms ‘N Charge. When I tell them that I’m teaching class or that I have to travel to speak, they get excited. They think I’m a pretty cool mommy so that makes me happy 🙂
|What is some advice you would like to share with other Moms?|
Do what works for you. There is no one–size-fits-all when it comes to motherhood. There’s a lot of great advice out there. Take it and tweak it to work for your family. Don’t allow yourself to get flustered or overwhelmed because you feel you should be doing all of the twenty things a week with your children that you see another mom doing.
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Haute Mom’s Have Purpose + Dr. Tara Jenkins

HMHP-Dr Tara Jenkins

Haute Mom’s Have Purpose is an interview series that features “Haute Mommi’s” who are not only experiencing great success in their careers, but also are present and active in their homes and personal lives. Let’s be inspired by the stories and advice by Moms who are just like us, Haute Moms with Purpose. 

I love this lady! She is one of the nicest people I know! When I first decided to launch this interview series, she was the first person I thought of. She probably doesn’t know this, but she is one of the reasons I began to seek out my purpose. After one bible study at my Chicago church home, she introduced me to a book that forever changed my outlook on life “Just Enough Light for the Step I’m On” by Stormie Omartian and I have never been the same. Enough about me…

Dr. Tara Jenkins is an amazing wife, mother, creative communicator of God’s word, a passionate leader, she sings, plays the piano, can spit spoken word and 16 bars with the best of them, proficient in ballet, and can tap dance in 4 inch heels! She is the beautiful wife and Chief Encouragement Officer to Pastor and Singer Charles Jenkins whose single “This Means War” is climbing the Billboard charts and brand new video was just released this week! Click here to watch the official video”This Means War” Keep up with Dr. Tara via her blog titled “Chief Encouragement Officer” at tarajenkins.org 

|Briefly introduce yourself and your passion/purpose.| 

I’m Tara Jenkins, I was born and raised in the small town of Jackson, Tennessee, but I am now learning how to raise 3 amazing kids who were born in the big city of Chicago! My passion and purpose is to motivate women, wives and girls to maximize their potential in every area of their lives.

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|What’s your favorite quote or saying?| 

One of my favorite quotes is, “Never accept a ‘no’ from someone who never had the power to give you a ‘yes’ in the first place. I have seen others be discouraged by critics and I have experienced it myself. However, your discouragers should never frustrate you to the point of inactivity! I like to encourage the discouraged by saying, “Do what you were created to do, not what you are expected to do…”

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|What’s on your iPod?|

My iPod may have every genre of music that’s on iTunes! From a little country from Keith Urban, Lady Antebellum(thanks to my Tennessee roots), to a little pop with Vintage Bieber(thanks to the kids), a little stepping music from R. Kelly(thanks to 18 years in Chicago), a little hip hop from Doug E. Fresh(because of my love for all types of dance), and of course I have countless gospel artists on my iPod, especially Charles Jenkins who is the reason I am a mother!!(Lol)

|What are you reading now?|

My reading is usually geared toward preparing to teach from the bible. Right now, I am enjoying the book of Proverbs, which has 31 chapters, so it’s a perfect way to read a chapter of wisdom every day.

|How many kids do you have and what are their ages?|

I am blessed to have 3 kids, who are 11 & 10-year old girls and a 6-year old boy.

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|How do you find balance?|
One of my mentors taught me early on, that life is not a balancing act, it’s a juggling act. There are certain times when you have to be hands on in a particular situation and then seasons change. The key is knowing what can hang in the air when!
|Was there ever a moment where you felt lost in motherhood?| 
The only reason, that I don’t feel lost every day is because I have motherhood guides around at all times! I feel like I am learning as I go. You can easily feel lost if you’re isolated and don’t seek advice.
|How is having support important?|
Trying to be a mother without support is a guaranteed way to self-destruct. Women must relinquish the desire and control to do-it-all and be honest about what areas support is needed. It is our pride that feeds this unhealthy cycle. The Proverbs 31 woman had staff that helped her handle her role!
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|How did you discover your purpose?|
My purpose is consistently revealed through my frustrations. It bothers me internally to see beautiful, talented women, wives, and girls live as a lesser version of themselves. So I have a passion for convening these groups and equip them to be more! If someone is seeking their true purpose, they should ask themselves what bothers them the most!
|How important is it for mothers to find their purpose?|
 It is imperative for mothers to discover their purpose because our children are our greatest imitators. The kids need to see this process of living in purpose unfold in their parents’ lives so that they will know how to do the same.
|What’s the best advice you’ve ever received?|
The best advice I received was to relinquish doing what others can do and invest my time in doing those things that only I am created to do.
|How do you stay inspired?|
I stay inspired by having a circle of friends who are go-getters and not go-sitters. Their risk-taking personalities keep me out of the box!
|What is some advice you would like to share with other Moms?|
I want every mom to remember to have fun in each season. The hustle and bustle of baby bottles, diapers, doctors appointments, then school, homework, and extracurricular activities can drain the fun out of life. When it’s possible, plan a do-nothing day to chill, laugh and wear footed pajamas together all day long!

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