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Haute Moms Have Purpose + Christina King-Rogers

Haute Mom’s Have Purpose is an interview series that features “Haute Mommi’s” who are not only experiencing great success in their careers, but also are present and active in their homes and personal lives. Let’s be inspired by the stories and advice by Moms who are just like us, Haute Moms with Purpose. 

This interview is one very close to my heart. It’s one thing to highlight Moms, but another thing to highlight a Mother whose story you’ve lived through. I have watched Christina evolve literally. She is my cousin, but more like my sister. As I told her a few months ago at her vow renewal, and I’m not ashamed to say it publicly, I am so inspired by your tenacity and drive to push forward past adversity and into your purpose. Christina has created her product not only with her hands but her heart. She is the budding entrepreneur and CEO behind Blessed Organic Essentials; she is teaching us and giving us the tools we need to take care of our beautiful skin. I know you will be inspired by her awesome story of triumph and purpose.

|Briefly introduce yourself and your passion/purpose.| 

I’m Christina King-Rogers, entrepreneur and creator of Blessed Organic Essential Fragrances established in 2014. I’m married to Mercedes and have three beautiful children Jayda 13, Christian  8, and Aaliyah 6. On August 5, 2015, I quit my job as an Office Manager and took a step of faith and fully committed to walking in my calling in the health and beauty industry.

|What’s your favorite quote or saying?| 

My favorite quote or saying is…Ephesians 3:20: Now unto him that is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we can ask or think according to the power that works within us.

|How do you find balance?|

I find my work/ life balance through making sure my family continues to be my priority at all times, whether that mean making sure we have home-cooked meals at least 5 days out the week where we sit and have family dinners or just being present at school to support their academic achievements or extracurricular activities. I pride myself on having one on one time right before bedtime to channel in on what transpired throughout the day with my husband and children. It gives them all an outlet to be able to have me as their support system.

|You have an amazing story of healing and triumph, Can you share it with us?|

In 2009 at the age of 29, I was diagnosed with Stage 3 Follicular Papillary Carcinoma …which is cancer of the thyroid with a goiter the size of a lemon in my neck. I was brought into an office alone with four doctors for them to tell me after a routine check-up and ultrasound that I needed to get surgery right away and undergo aggressive radioactive iodine treatment immediately. I left the hospital afraid for my life. All I can say was Lord have mercy on me… My thoughts were racing as I got in the car with tears streaming down my face “ what about my husband, children, and what is going to happen to me am I going to die” I felt lost in motherhood as I had to shift my focus from my family for a while to beat this cancer and fight for my life. God is amazing because I am here today 34 years old and after undergoing two major surgeries, two bouts of radioactive iodine treatment, and three reconstructive surgeries later. I am cancer free, here with my family, and living out my dreams.

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|How important is having support?|

Having a support system is so crucial and vital in my life with being a full-time mom, wife and entrepreneur especially during the school year when all of my children are on different schedules and participate in various activities, not to mention the deadlines and obligations that have to be met in a timely fashion. I accredit my husband and my mother-in-law giving their time without measure.

|How did you discover your purpose?|

I discovered my purpose while still working in corporate America. Once I knew was completed cleared in my health in 2014 I start making my essential oils for the health benefits that it provided my family and me. I also made a choice to live a healthy lifestyle from the inside out. Thereafter I began venturing off into creating my own Organic Skincare Line to provide health awareness and for me to give back to the world a product that is not only good for your skin but the mind, body and soul.

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|How important is it for mothers to find their purpose?|

Every mother has her personal journey and story. It is so important for us as women and most importantly as parents to find our purpose to gain our self-worth and fulfillment on earth. We provide so much within our homes, being teachers and nurturers, which our children need to see us succeeding in finding our purpose that it may inspire them to find their own.

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|How do you stay inspired?|

I stay inspired through my passion for helping others and educating them about living a healthy lifestyle, helping them through own their health challenges, and of course my life journey keeps me grounded and humbled by it all.

|Have you ever experienced Mommy Guilt?|

I experience mommy guilt quite often especially during the peak times of business where I am up until 3 am fulfilling orders and haven’t spent much time with them all day. As a parent, you are unable to get that time back, so I make sure to remain present and give them my undivided attention when they require it.

|What is some advice you would like to share with other Moms?|

Moms, we are life givers and timeless. Our children are a heritage of the Lord, and the fruit of our womb is his reward. He has entrusted us with his precious gifts; we will not always understand the ways God takes our children or us but trust the process and most importantly trust God.

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Haute Mom’s Have Purpose + Camesha Gosha

Haute Mom’s Have Purpose is an interview series that features “Haute Mommi’s” who are not only experiencing great success in their careers, but also are present and active in their homes and personal lives. Let’s be inspired by the stories and advice by Moms who are just like us, Haute Moms with Purpose. 

Camesha is such a breath of fresh air! Our blogs have very similar missions to see moms be their best at motherhood, but also in their careers. She wants to change the face of motherhood through seeing moms inspired, motivated, and most of all happy! Read more about Camesha below and don’t forget to visit her beautiful website!

|Briefly introduce yourself and your passion/purpose.| 

I’m Camesha Gosha of Camesha.com. I’m a mama, wife, author + former network TV writer/producer. I’ve made some huge changes in my life to allow me to stay at home with my kids. It’s been a crazy journey but one I’m thankful for. My passion is encouraging other moms to find and follow their passions/dreams. After I had kids, I heard that my dreams would have to be put on the back burner and that just didn’t sit right with me. I didn’t see a reason that I should wait until my kids are adults before I start following my dreams. From modeling to authoring a book, I’ve made it happen while being a mama. My goal is to be an awesome mom while following my dreams.

|What’s your favorite quote or saying?| 

My favorite quote is “There’s freedom waiting for you on the breezes of the sky. And you ask “What if I fall?” Oh, but my darling, what if you fly? – Erin Hanson I love it so much, I just had a pillow made with the quote on it.

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|What’s on your iPod?|

On my iPod right now are toddler tunes! I have all of these Disney and Sesame Street stations for my kids. I mix it up every now and then with Bruno Mars, Pharrell Williams and Michael Jackson. They LOVE Michael Jackson.

|What are you reading now?|

Right now, I’m reading Launch by Jeff Walker. It’s about launching products for sale online. Learning lots of good stuff!

|How many kids do you have and what are their ages?|

I have two children. I have a 5-year-old son and a 2-year-old daughter. They keep my hands full! Never a dull moment.

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|How do you find balance?|
Finding balance is a day to day thing for me. Some days are definitely better than others. It’s a perfect day when I feel like the kids have gotten what they need (play, learning, etc) and then there’s time in the day for me to do something for me. I really try to make that time. It makes me a better mama. When my daughter takes her nap, I have time to relax a bit, work a bit or whatever else it is I feel like I need for me. If I’ve met my needs it’s so much easier for me to meet theirs.
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|Was there ever a moment where you felt lost in motherhood?| 
 Making the switch from being a working mom to a SAHM had me feeling lost for a minute. I had to find my identity in this new role. I was determined to be here for my kids and just as determined to be there for myself. I didn’t want to get lost in all I do for them and have nothing for myself. With two kids who need me for just about everything, that’s not always easy to do.
|How important is having support?|
I’ve found that having support is vital. I learned the hard way because I don’t have much. My husband and I live here in Los Angeles with no family around. All of our family is on the other side of the country. We rely on each other to make things happen.
|How did you discover your purpose?|
Discovering my purpose was quite the journey. I should have known that part of it involved writing. That’s all I’ve ever done. Motivating others again wasn’t something I thought about. It’s just something I’ve always done. I love to see people doing + living in a way that makes them happy. If I can serve to motivate along the way – awesome!Working Hard-HMHP
|How important is it for mothers to find their purpose?|
I think it is vital for any of us to find our purpose. I have a special passion for moms though. As a mom, I know it can be hard to find time and brain space for anything else outside of our families. At the same time, it’s even more important that we find that time. Making room for purpose not only serves us but our kids too. I tend to think of it this way – the kids will grow up and move out. When that day comes, I want to be able to say I took the time to invest in myself by finding and living my purpose. Being an example for them to live on purpose is part of my job as their mama.
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|What’s the best advice you’ve ever received?|
Someone shared this quote with me once and it really stuck. “Life is not a dress rehearsal.” Every since I let that sink in I have worked hard to live the life I want right now. Knowing that we only get one go round makes me not want to waste time not being happy.
|How do you stay inspired?|
I stay inspired by always looking forward. When things seem to be going left, I think about what the end result of all my hard work will look like. That keeps me inspired to keep working toward it.
|Have you ever experienced Mommy Guilt?|
I’ve definitely experienced mommy guilt. As a working mom, I was worried I wasn’t spending enough time with my kids.I worked in television and it’s not always family friendly. Things can change at the last hour and late nights weren’t uncommon. I felt like I was missing too much. Now that I’m at home, I feel guilty about all the time my daughter gets with me that my son didn’t. There’s always something to feel guilty about. We just have to figure out how to manage it and balance the guilt with the good stuff.
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|What is some advice you would like to share with other Moms?|
My advice for other moms is to make sure to enjoy the journey of motherhood. It looks different for all of us. It has its ups and downs but it really is special. The bond and the influence we have with the little people we bring into this world is nothing short of a miracle. Try to remember that when they’re bouncing off the walls and you wanna pull your hair out. lol
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My hope for US on Mother’s Day

 

mothersdayNo one likes Sad Mommy, Mean Mommy, Scary Mommy, Distant Mommy, Withdrawn Mommy, Distracted Mommy, Overwhelmed Mommy, Angry Mommy, Resentful Mommy, and Anxious Mommy…Including YOU!

These are real emotions mothers like you and I feel everyday. It doesn’t matter if you’re a brand new mom, a professional mom of multiples, a mom of toddlers (or stair steps), a mom of teenagers, an empty nester mom, married mom, single mom or a teenage mom who got received her cape slightly early. All of us at some point in our parenting have felt or are feeling these same emotions. Many times we keep everything inside never sharing it with our spouses, family members, friends…. anyone. Why? I’m a Mom, I’m supposed to be strong, don’t let them see you sweat, do everything…. and look cute doing it! NOT!

If I can be very transparent, there are some days even I don’t feel so great, I’m still learning to be the best Mother I can be. I have my moments of frustration and impatience, hold my children to unfair standards of perfection, and some days I totally miss the mark.

“The two most powerful words when we’re in the struggle; me too” -Brene Brown

You are not alone in your feelings! Mother’s everywhere are waking up every morning putting on their Super Mom cape and attempting to juggle way more than we can handle. Since the beginning of time women have been known to be the picture of strength. We’ve all seen or used this quote “A woman is like a tea bag; you never know how strong it is until it’s in hot water”-Eleanor Roosevelt

As I began reading this quote and thinking about the attributes of a tea bag, at our healthiest state we resemble a tea bag…resilient, giving, and productive. When we’re at a low mental state it’s difficult to be everything to everyone. Most of us play dominant and very active roles both in and out of our households and have a hard time saying no to everyone and yes to our needs and ourselves.

Here are five attributes of a tea bag I feel we as moms should seek to adapt as the beginning to saying goodbye to mean, stressed, depressed, and tired mommy.

1.  A tea bag is Transparent.

As a mom, being transparent is hard. We like to wear our “everything is ok face” 24/7 365 days a year. We don’t want to appear weak or if we aren’t worthy to wear our supermom cape. It’s alright to be transparent, to say I need help, I can’t answer that right now, I need a moment, a break, and 5 minutes alone in the bathroom.

2. A tea bag is Filled with leaves.

What kind of tea can an empty tea bag produce? Exactly, nothing. What can an empty Mom produce? Exactly, nothing. What am I being filled with? Am I fulfilling my purpose? As a mom when you pour out to your family, allow your family to pour back into you. It is very important to find ways to be filled whether it’s through a personal bible study, reading a book, prayer, or girl talk with a friend…you’ll be surprised how much better you feel.

3. A tea bag Preserves.

The tea bag is strong has the ability to protect its leaves against even the hottest water to produce the best tea.  Mothers have perfected taking care of everyone beside herself. If we want to be around to watch our children grow and to see their children and children’s children we have to preserve our health, both mentally and physically.

4. A tea bag is Strong, but only within its limits.

A tea bag is strong but not strong enough to withstand being run over by a car. Know your limitations! It’s ok if you can’t wash, clean up, cook, read, work, fly a plane, and heal the sick all in one day!! No one expects you too and if they do…check your circle!

5. A tea bag Alone can’t produce tea.

It would be nice if alone a tea bag could make you a bomb cup of tea after a long day. Wouldn’t that be nice! The tea bag needs the bag, the string, the tea, YOU, hot water, a nice cup, sugar, lemon, honey…you get the point. You alone are great, but what make us better is the people we surround ourselves with! Appreciate those people and allow them to make you better.

My hope for us on Mother’s Day is to be Happy Mommy, Patient Mommy, Fulfilled Mommy, Attentive Mommy, Present Mommy, Balanced Mommy, Loving Mommy, Understanding Mommy, Supportive Mommy, Relaxed Mommy, and Ambitious Mommy…. everybody likes her…. including YOU!

Happy Mother’s Day!

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Little Miss question asker

photo(2)My almost six-year old is a human question asker! She has the ability to fire off questions left and right about any random subject, person, place, thing, or the well-known how do babies come out of the mommi’s tummy (out of the belly-button…that’s my story and I’m sticking to it!)

I take most of the blame for all the questions; I’m pretty open with her about world events, disasters, and our local Chicago violence. I don’t want her to be afraid but aware of what’s going on in the world around her. Although it was my goal for her to be more aware than afraid, she has is very inquisitive especially when it comes to tornadoes.

This week alone I have been asked questions like:

What happens when it rains on a plane?

What if a tornado happens while you’re on a plane?

Can we have tornadoes in Chicago?

Are there tornadoes in Mexico?

It’s raining, will there be a tornado?

Pray for me……

I consider myself pretty curious…. well more curious than most (just ask my friends).  When I was a child there wasn’t Google where information is seconds away from our fingertips…we had a stack of encyclopedias! It was frowned upon when a kid asked to many questions to adults. I ran out of fingers and toes trying to count how many times I heard an adult tell a child “You don’t question grown folks”. Imagine if my curiosity was nurtured into adulthood. I would be more open-minded, handle challenges differently, and gain a different appreciation for our world.

So with that said…I’m ready for Little Miss Question asker and Miss Question asker # 2.  They can fire away all the questions they want (except where do babies come from…nope not ready to deal with that yet). I know these questions are building up her little brain, encouraging her to explore the world, and enhancing her imagination.

How do you encourage your child’s natural curiosity?

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The problem with being the perfect parent

photo(1)“Perfect people lead to having perfect kids which make the perfect people perfect parents with a perfect life but in reality it puts plenty of profuse pressure on people.” –LaChaya D. Terry

Who told me I had to be a perfect mother? Sure weren’t my two girls! Did my husband tell me? Nope! Did my mother tell me she was a perfect mother and I should be one too? Nope!

I have come to the realization that I have put unrealistic expectations on my children and myself to be perfect, and it’s pretty stressful. When you start out at perfect what else is there to strive for and how much further up can you go?

1. “You don’t have to be perfect to be “the” perfect parent for your kids.” Parents make mistakes, fly off the handle, lose their patience, forget about a school trip, or lose a favorite toy. Don’t beat yourself up! Start new and fresh, learn from each opportunity, and make the necessary changes.

2. “Perfect can be dangerous.” I want to raise well-rounded children that aren’t afraid to mess up or to fail, but can dust themselves off, get back up, and not be afraid to try again. I’ve witnessed too many adults who never experienced disappointment until adulthood and it rocked them to the core.

3. “Don’t have comparisonitis” Your parenting style might not be the same as your family member, co-worker, or friend. Do what works best for your household and family!

4. “Kids will be kids” They will fight, cry, kick, scream, embarrass you, make you late, sleep in your bed, lose things, forget things, forget to use the potty, make bad decisions, giggle too much in class, like the wrong boy, say they hate you. IT’S ALL RIGHT! Be “their” perfect parent and not “the” perfect parent…love, hug, kiss, and embrace them for who they are, cherish every moment you have. They love you and you love them and it’s all that matters.

Before you know it they will grow up and strive to be perfect people with perfect kids being the perfect parents having the perfect life putting plenty of profuse pressure on them. Don’t pass it on.

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Armpits and Boobies

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Two words most parents don’t like to hear in regards to their daughter:

1. Deodorant

2. Training bras

(There are a few more, but we won’t go into that)

It’s not like those are bad words, but they are indicators that “your baby” is growing up, and if you’re anything like me, you don’t necessarily have a problem with your child getting older, but you do mind them growing up.

I have a lot of friends and family members that are now taking that dreaded trip to the mall to buy their daughter their first training bra. Is it me or does “the change” seem to be happening younger and younger. I am so happy “the real change” for my oldest daughter is at least 6 or 7 years from now (wishful thinking). I have to begin praying for my husband’s acceptance of “the change” right now! A couple of months ago we were in a department store and I was looking through the clearance rack and spotted some $.50 training bras, I joked and said maybe I should buy a few of these because of the deal for when she get’s older. He rapidly shook his head and said, “I don’t want to think about that right now!”

My oldest daughter who is almost 6 is experiencing a different type of change, instead of training bras I went shopping for deodorant. Last summer I started noticing a change, so I started paying extra attention to those areas and using baby powder to stay fresh during the warmer months. Now that the summer is almost here, I realized that powder just wouldn’t do! I ventured to our local Walgreens and purchased Tom’s of Maine natural deodorant for her to try out. I’ll let you know how it goes!

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I want to hear from you! How old did your child start wearing deodorant or need a training bra? How did you cope with “the change”?

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A letter to Taylor

Today my first-born turns five and I decided to write her a letter that I hope she will cherish forever. Happy Birthday Taylor!

Dear Taylor,

Before you were born we imagined who you would look like, whose personality you would have, and what kind of person we hoped you would be. You have totally exceeded our expectations and are more than we could ever imagine. Being your mom is one of my greatest achievements and I love you so much! I have watched you grow from a little seed in my stomach to a beautiful girl with big beautiful eyes filled with so much promise. As you turn five and look forward to starting school soon, I have noticed how much you have grown and are becoming mommy’s big girl, and I look forward to sharing many more special memories and watching you grow and mature even more. I thank God for choosing me to be your mommy.
Love always,

Mommy

 

Deuces Diapers: Part 1

Throne, potty, the pot, bathroom, toilet, pee-pee room, the little girls and boys room, and powder room.

Whatever you call it, all of us had to master it at one point in life, some later than others 🙂 I thought my second go-round with the potty would be easier. Hey I thought this is my second child, she’s a girl, my oldest got it pretty quick…….I’m good! With my oldest daughter Taylor, I started introducing the potty at around 18 months, by her 2nd birthday she had it, no accidents or anything. My method…..I let her walk around the house with no bottoms and when she had to go she went to the potty….no more, no less.

With Morgan my youngest, my experience has been quite different. I don’t know if it because I feel like potty training is the end to babyhood and were not planning on having anymore kids or she just isn’t ready.  So I realized that in fact she is pretty much ready to start potty training, it’s really me that isn’t ready to let my baby graduate into a big girl. I won’t miss changing diapers…..buying diapers….oh yeah and buying diapers. I had to come to terms that although she won’t be a baby in age and actions, she will always be my baby, diapers or not.

This week we branched out into our 2nd Round of Potty Training…..I’ll let you know how it goes….First the paci is gone and now this.

 

 

 

Leave me a comment! What has been your potty training experiences?

Sucker for Mothers

Happy Monday! Hope that you all had a great weekend. I did! In fact I had a very busy one….but I can say I learned something valuable from each day.With all that was going this weekend, I truly learned that I am a “Sucker for Mothers”. Last night as I was reflecting on the weekend and my Mother’s Day, and I realized that I am a great mother because I am surrounded by other great mothers. I received some really great Mother’s Day cards this weekend and this year I really “READ” them and took the words to heart, and I know that I wouldn’t be able to read those words about myself, if it wasn’t for my mother, my grandmother’s , aunts, cousins, friends, and YOU (yeah You). Some people may say “well my Mother wasn’t such a good Mother, but I am determined to be a great one”. We didn’t only learn from things our mothers verbally taught us and good things we observed them doing, but we also learned from their silence, imperfections, and mistakes to be Great Mothers….Haute Mommi’s.

On Thursday, I attended the 2012 Good City Gala. Good City is an organization that provides resources to non-profit entrepreneurs that seek to make a difference in communities that desperately need it. My takeaway from this event is that there is so much more that each of us can do to change a community. This is why One Haute Mommi is so important to me because I know if I can empower a mother than fathers, children, and households can be enhanced and pushed to operate on a greater scale. Check out their site at goodcitychicago.org

Friday, I had the opportunity to attend a concert with my besties, I love these women, and they are crazy just like me! They are a great group of women and mothers, and every time we get together we laugh a whole lot and learn so much from each other! I also learned that FREE isn’t always good (insider, lol).

Saturday, I attended a Mother’s & Daughters Brunch at Hickory Hills Country Club with my Mom and Morgan. This place brought back so many great memories because this is where my husband and I took our vows, it looked as beautiful as I remember four years ago when we viewed the property for the first time. The brunch was a great time for bonding between Mother’s and Daughters, many Daughters shared words of Thanksgiving for their Mom’s and Mom’s shared “Word’s of Wisdom” for their Daughters.

Finally! Happy Mother’s Day! Sunday my family and I continued our family tradition of participating in the Y-Me Breast Cancer Walk. We walked 3 miles aside of 30,000 + people walking for breast cancer survivors, themselves, and family members. My leg is still sore from all that walking! That evening we spent invaluable time with our family.(Learn more about Y-Me at y-me.org)

How was your Mother’s Day?