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Haute Mom’s Have Purpose + Christine St. Vil

Christine St. Vil-HMHP

Haute Mom’s Have Purpose is an interview series that features “Haute Mommi’s” who are not only experiencing great success in their careers, but also are present and active in their homes and personal lives. Let’s be inspired by the stories and advice by Moms who are just like us, Haute Moms with Purpose. 

I met Christine through a bloggers group we are both a part of. She is such as inspiration not only to mothers like myself but has a wealth of knowledge as a business woman when it comes to entrepreneurship, blogging, purpose, social media, and empowerment. Christine’s vision is similar to mine, she wants to change the face of motherhood through helping women take charge of their lives by defining and igniting their purpose in both life and business. She is a dynamic speaker, social media guru, author, and best of all a wife and mother. Read more about Christine below and be sure to check out her website and her highly acclaimed book Whose Shoes Are You Wearing? 12 Steps to Uncovering the Woman You Really Want to Be. 

|Briefly introduce yourself and your passion/purpose.| 

My name is Christine St.Vil and I’m the Founder/CEO of Moms ‘N Charge™, a division of Purpose Driven Media, LLC. My passion is helping moms pursue their goals and dreams, in addition to being a great mom. I’m also passionate about teaching and training, and love helping women in business (especially moms) create a social media strategy that aligns with their life vision/purpose.

|What’s your favorite quote or saying?| 

One of my favorite quotes is: “Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.” It’s a great reminder that we don’t have to always have every detail in place, and every check box marked off. The key is to staying in action and doing what you can with what you have.

HMHP-Christine St. Vil

|What’s on your iPod?|

Ha! A mix of everything. I mostly listen to gospel music, love Mary Mary, Tye Tribbett, Yolanda Adams, William McDowell and others. But I also have Kelly Clarkson, Janet Jackson, Usher and everything in between. My most recent and current favorite download is the “Beyond the Lights” soundtrack and Annie (for the kids, or course lol).

|What are you reading now?|

I just finished Act Like a Success, Think Like a Success (GREAT book). And I’m now reading Angel’s Laws of Blogging (Founder of Concrete Loop.com).

|How many kids do you have and what are their ages?|

I have 3 beautiful babies, one boy (age 7) and two girls (ages 5 & 3).

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|How do you find balance?|
I actually cringe when I hear “balance”. I honestly don’t believe that there’s a such thing. But I do believe that I juggle things well. As I stated in this previous article, you can’t give 100% to everything at the same time. If you’re rocking it out in one area of your life, another area is probably not as stellar. And that will probably change from day-to-day, week to week. And guess what? It’s okay. Some days I’m killing it with homeschooling and some days I’m not. Some days I’m killing it in my business and some days I’m not. And I’m okay with that. (if you want to link to my full article on this topic, here it is: Motherhood and Balance Don’t Mix & Here’s Why)
|Was there ever a moment where you felt lost in motherhood?| 
Absolutely! I talk about it all the time, especially because I know so many other moms can relate. I definitely became a “victim of identity theft” due to motherhood after I had my third child and became
Absolutely! I talk about it all the time, especially because I know so many other moms can relate. I definitely became a “victim of identity theft” due to motherhood after I had my third child and became an SAHM (Stay at home Mom). I didn’t realize how much I had allowed my corporate job to define who I was, and how much I enjoyed that part of my identity until I no longer had it. At the time, going to work gave me a sense of purpose. But becoming an SAHM, I struggled to figure out what that was. I struggled with postpartum depression after I had my third child and a lot of it, I believe, had to do with not really knowing and loving who I was deep down.
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|How important is having support?|
I can’t stress enough about the importance of having a support system. When I coach my clients who say they don’t have family or friends close by, or who support them, I encourage them to go out and create their own support system. When I was going through PPD, I found support in online communities, from complete strangers that could relate to exactly what I was going through. I also looked for mommy support groups in my area and ended up joining my local Mocha Moms group.
|How did you discover your purpose?|
When I started my company, I knew that I was on a mission to help moms discover their own purpose, and not allow the mom guilt to keep them from pursuing their goals and dreams. But when I co-authored my first book with my sister last year, I think that was the defining moment that I was on the right track. The testimonials we’ve received from people who have been able to forgive themselves for nothing they had control over, or from those who needed to hear exactly what we shared, has been humbling. It’s made us push even more to help more women to uncover the woman they were truly meant to be.
Whose shoes FINAL book cover
|How important is it for mothers to find their purpose?|
 I truly think it’s so important. I wrote an article about this and someone made a comment that they wished their mom had followed her own dreams, because years later, she felt cheated as her daughter. I believe we have to set the example for our children. How can we encourage our children to go after their dreams, and to encourage them that they can do anything and be anything they want, but yet, we’re not doing the same? I want my children to be inspired and see me as that example to go after what they want in life.
|What’s the best advice you’ve ever received?|
I’ve received so much great advice over the years, especially since starting my business. But one of the best pieces of advice, when you’re pursuing your purpose and passion in life, is that it’s not about me. It’s not about you. Fear will creep up. Anxiety and stress will set in. But when you take the focus off of you and on to the person/people who are waiting to hear your message, it makes things much easier.
|How do you stay inspired?|
By connecting with people like you who have a similar mindset and drive. I listen to motivational podcasts and YouTube clips almost daily. I read inspirational quotes daily and as much as possible, I try to eliminate the negativity that I engage with.
|Have you ever experienced Mommy Guilt?|
I definitely have! I think it’s a requirement of being a mom 🙂 But one of the things that has helped tremendously (since my mommy guilt stemmed from trying to build my business and trying to start homeschooling and spending time with the kids) is involving the kids. I talk to them about what I do, the classes I teach. They know all about my book, Whose Shoes Are You Wearing? They can tell you about Moms ‘N Charge. When I tell them that I’m teaching class or that I have to travel to speak, they get excited. They think I’m a pretty cool mommy so that makes me happy 🙂
|What is some advice you would like to share with other Moms?|
Do what works for you. There is no one–size-fits-all when it comes to motherhood. There’s a lot of great advice out there. Take it and tweak it to work for your family. Don’t allow yourself to get flustered or overwhelmed because you feel you should be doing all of the twenty things a week with your children that you see another mom doing.
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Does having kids kill your chance for a successful career?

Ever since Beyoncé announced her pregnancy in August at the VMA award’s the streets have been buzzing about whether having a baby would ruin her career. (on a side note) Congrats to Bey and Jay on their new baby girl Blue Ivy Carter born yesterday. This comment not only came from men but mainly women expressing disinterest in having kids or others having kids because their career would suffer. Being a working mother of two, I have to admit that it’s not easy working, going to school, and having kids….but it’s life for me. In my mind I can be only as successful as I allow myself to be. My question is why do many people have this misconception about having kids and careers? It’s not as if we haven’t seen healthy images of working women throughout our lifetime. Did you know that in 2010 61% of moms or moms-to-be were in the workforce and women owned 29% of all businesses in the U.S.? I just believe that women should be able to work, stay at home, run five businesses, run marathons, sing, help with homework, run for political office, preach, change diapers, write books, blog, model, rap, back flips, swim, teach, or whatever else they choose to do and be great mothers.

In the words of Sister Beyoncé…..

Who run the world? Girls

This goes out to all the women getting it in,
Get on your grind
To the other men that respect what I do
Please accept my shine

Boy you know you love it
How we’re smart enough to make these millions
Strong enough to bear the children
Then get back to business

What do you think? Does having kids kill your chance for a successful career?