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Haute Mom’s Have Purpose + Dr. Tara Jenkins

HMHP-Dr Tara Jenkins

Haute Mom’s Have Purpose is an interview series that features “Haute Mommi’s” who are not only experiencing great success in their careers, but also are present and active in their homes and personal lives. Let’s be inspired by the stories and advice by Moms who are just like us, Haute Moms with Purpose. 

I love this lady! She is one of the nicest people I know! When I first decided to launch this interview series, she was the first person I thought of. She probably doesn’t know this, but she is one of the reasons I began to seek out my purpose. After one bible study at my Chicago church home, she introduced me to a book that forever changed my outlook on life “Just Enough Light for the Step I’m On” by Stormie Omartian and I have never been the same. Enough about me…

Dr. Tara Jenkins is an amazing wife, mother, creative communicator of God’s word, a passionate leader, she sings, plays the piano, can spit spoken word and 16 bars with the best of them, proficient in ballet, and can tap dance in 4 inch heels! She is the beautiful wife and Chief Encouragement Officer to Pastor and Singer Charles Jenkins whose single “This Means War” is climbing the Billboard charts and brand new video was just released this week! Click here to watch the official video”This Means War” Keep up with Dr. Tara via her blog titled “Chief Encouragement Officer” at tarajenkins.org 

|Briefly introduce yourself and your passion/purpose.| 

I’m Tara Jenkins, I was born and raised in the small town of Jackson, Tennessee, but I am now learning how to raise 3 amazing kids who were born in the big city of Chicago! My passion and purpose is to motivate women, wives and girls to maximize their potential in every area of their lives.

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|What’s your favorite quote or saying?| 

One of my favorite quotes is, “Never accept a ‘no’ from someone who never had the power to give you a ‘yes’ in the first place. I have seen others be discouraged by critics and I have experienced it myself. However, your discouragers should never frustrate you to the point of inactivity! I like to encourage the discouraged by saying, “Do what you were created to do, not what you are expected to do…”

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|What’s on your iPod?|

My iPod may have every genre of music that’s on iTunes! From a little country from Keith Urban, Lady Antebellum(thanks to my Tennessee roots), to a little pop with Vintage Bieber(thanks to the kids), a little stepping music from R. Kelly(thanks to 18 years in Chicago), a little hip hop from Doug E. Fresh(because of my love for all types of dance), and of course I have countless gospel artists on my iPod, especially Charles Jenkins who is the reason I am a mother!!(Lol)

|What are you reading now?|

My reading is usually geared toward preparing to teach from the bible. Right now, I am enjoying the book of Proverbs, which has 31 chapters, so it’s a perfect way to read a chapter of wisdom every day.

|How many kids do you have and what are their ages?|

I am blessed to have 3 kids, who are 11 & 10-year old girls and a 6-year old boy.

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|How do you find balance?|
One of my mentors taught me early on, that life is not a balancing act, it’s a juggling act. There are certain times when you have to be hands on in a particular situation and then seasons change. The key is knowing what can hang in the air when!
|Was there ever a moment where you felt lost in motherhood?| 
The only reason, that I don’t feel lost every day is because I have motherhood guides around at all times! I feel like I am learning as I go. You can easily feel lost if you’re isolated and don’t seek advice.
|How is having support important?|
Trying to be a mother without support is a guaranteed way to self-destruct. Women must relinquish the desire and control to do-it-all and be honest about what areas support is needed. It is our pride that feeds this unhealthy cycle. The Proverbs 31 woman had staff that helped her handle her role!
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|How did you discover your purpose?|
My purpose is consistently revealed through my frustrations. It bothers me internally to see beautiful, talented women, wives, and girls live as a lesser version of themselves. So I have a passion for convening these groups and equip them to be more! If someone is seeking their true purpose, they should ask themselves what bothers them the most!
|How important is it for mothers to find their purpose?|
 It is imperative for mothers to discover their purpose because our children are our greatest imitators. The kids need to see this process of living in purpose unfold in their parents’ lives so that they will know how to do the same.
|What’s the best advice you’ve ever received?|
The best advice I received was to relinquish doing what others can do and invest my time in doing those things that only I am created to do.
|How do you stay inspired?|
I stay inspired by having a circle of friends who are go-getters and not go-sitters. Their risk-taking personalities keep me out of the box!
|What is some advice you would like to share with other Moms?|
I want every mom to remember to have fun in each season. The hustle and bustle of baby bottles, diapers, doctors appointments, then school, homework, and extracurricular activities can drain the fun out of life. When it’s possible, plan a do-nothing day to chill, laugh and wear footed pajamas together all day long!

Connect with Dr. Tara Twitter | Web

 

Tires just don’t roll: A few hours with Bridgestone

This post is sponsored by Bridgestone. All opinions are my own.

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Earlier this month I attended a Bridgestone Tires “Drive and Learn” event at Toyota Park. Normally these events are held for car dealers, but their new initiative to educate moms brought a few of us mom bloggers to learn and also have a little fun too.

As a mother the most important asset is protecting your family and when you purchase a car the first thing you should look for is safety, but who knew your tires had such an impact on enhancing the safety of your car. Yea sure before attending this event I thought I was maintaining my tire safety by putting air when the tires were low and replacing them when needed. I never once considered my car’s performance when buying tires, all I needed to know was that the tires were brand new and in my price range.

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 After a quick lesson in Tires 101 and Car Care we hit the outdoor track, fun right? I was terrified! My ideal track is the route back and forth to my daughter’s school and while running a few minutes late.  We test drove four different Bridgestone tires on the BMW 325s on a wet and slippery track. I never knew 30 mph could feel so fast. Don’t believe me? Check out this video.

Here are a few quick tips I learned:

1. Tire pressure is important! Just because the tire isn’t low doesn’t mean the pressure is correct. Check the label in your door to see the PSI your tire should be at. Also don’t ignore your cars pressure sensor.

2. You get what you pay for in tires. Don’t just buy for price! Buy for comfort and handling also.

3. In the wintertime, don’t wait until there’s snow on the ground to put on your winter tires. Put them on when you start to see your breath outdoors. It’s not about snow, but temperature.

4. Ditch the automatic car washes. Did you know those tracks could damage your tires or break off your tire sensors which can be costly?

5. Good tires can save money on gas. Who could stand a save a few bucks at the tank??

Learn more about tires at tiresafety.com

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Little Miss question asker

photo(2)My almost six-year old is a human question asker! She has the ability to fire off questions left and right about any random subject, person, place, thing, or the well-known how do babies come out of the mommi’s tummy (out of the belly-button…that’s my story and I’m sticking to it!)

I take most of the blame for all the questions; I’m pretty open with her about world events, disasters, and our local Chicago violence. I don’t want her to be afraid but aware of what’s going on in the world around her. Although it was my goal for her to be more aware than afraid, she has is very inquisitive especially when it comes to tornadoes.

This week alone I have been asked questions like:

What happens when it rains on a plane?

What if a tornado happens while you’re on a plane?

Can we have tornadoes in Chicago?

Are there tornadoes in Mexico?

It’s raining, will there be a tornado?

Pray for me……

I consider myself pretty curious…. well more curious than most (just ask my friends).  When I was a child there wasn’t Google where information is seconds away from our fingertips…we had a stack of encyclopedias! It was frowned upon when a kid asked to many questions to adults. I ran out of fingers and toes trying to count how many times I heard an adult tell a child “You don’t question grown folks”. Imagine if my curiosity was nurtured into adulthood. I would be more open-minded, handle challenges differently, and gain a different appreciation for our world.

So with that said…I’m ready for Little Miss Question asker and Miss Question asker # 2.  They can fire away all the questions they want (except where do babies come from…nope not ready to deal with that yet). I know these questions are building up her little brain, encouraging her to explore the world, and enhancing her imagination.

How do you encourage your child’s natural curiosity?

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The problem with being the perfect parent

photo(1)“Perfect people lead to having perfect kids which make the perfect people perfect parents with a perfect life but in reality it puts plenty of profuse pressure on people.” –LaChaya D. Terry

Who told me I had to be a perfect mother? Sure weren’t my two girls! Did my husband tell me? Nope! Did my mother tell me she was a perfect mother and I should be one too? Nope!

I have come to the realization that I have put unrealistic expectations on my children and myself to be perfect, and it’s pretty stressful. When you start out at perfect what else is there to strive for and how much further up can you go?

1. “You don’t have to be perfect to be “the” perfect parent for your kids.” Parents make mistakes, fly off the handle, lose their patience, forget about a school trip, or lose a favorite toy. Don’t beat yourself up! Start new and fresh, learn from each opportunity, and make the necessary changes.

2. “Perfect can be dangerous.” I want to raise well-rounded children that aren’t afraid to mess up or to fail, but can dust themselves off, get back up, and not be afraid to try again. I’ve witnessed too many adults who never experienced disappointment until adulthood and it rocked them to the core.

3. “Don’t have comparisonitis” Your parenting style might not be the same as your family member, co-worker, or friend. Do what works best for your household and family!

4. “Kids will be kids” They will fight, cry, kick, scream, embarrass you, make you late, sleep in your bed, lose things, forget things, forget to use the potty, make bad decisions, giggle too much in class, like the wrong boy, say they hate you. IT’S ALL RIGHT! Be “their” perfect parent and not “the” perfect parent…love, hug, kiss, and embrace them for who they are, cherish every moment you have. They love you and you love them and it’s all that matters.

Before you know it they will grow up and strive to be perfect people with perfect kids being the perfect parents having the perfect life putting plenty of profuse pressure on them. Don’t pass it on.

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One Haute Mommi on Huffington Post Live!

Hey OHM Readers! Yesterday, I had the most awesome opportunity to join in on a conversation on “Huff Post Live” to talk about Social Media and is it making us more narcissistic. The conversation was based on my blog post “Why I quit social media” click here to check it out. I had a great time on this panel and look forward to doing it again. Enjoy!

Here is the link to the video “Obsessed with Ourselves

Before I Die……

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Photo Credit: http://beforeidie.cc/

I ran across this AWESOME site! A girl named Candy in New Orleans after the loss of a friend, she began to reflect about all the things she wanted to experience in life and became interested in what others wanted to explore. She painted the side of an abandoned building in her neighborhood into a large chalkboard and stenciled Before I die I want to_________________. Now all over the world in Berlin, D.C., Dubai, New York, Milwaukee, Chicago, and the list goes on and on, chalkboard’s have gone up and people’s hopes and dreams are shared in public.

What a cool tool to find some new bucket list items that you might want to explore that you never thought of, public affirmations to get closer to completing those dreams, and for some healing and closure.

One Haute Mommi has viewers from all different walks of life, people who are living in different stages, and places…..Let’s create a virtual Before I Die board. You can post your statement in multiple ways:

1) Leave it in the comments

2) Email: onehautemommi@gmail.com (put Before I die in the subject line)

3) Via Facebook (facebook.com/onehautemommi)

4) Via Twitter (@onehautemommi)

5) Get your family and friends involved!

As I receive the statements I will post them to the site under the tab Before I die or onehautemommi.com/before-i-die-virtual-wall/ and they will all be posted anonymously.

I don’t plan on dying anytime soon, I have too much to do! I will kick it off!

Before I die I want to skydive.

Before I die I want to travel to Paris.

Before I die I want to be apart of the change in my community.

Before I die I want to run a marathon.

Before I die I want to see my daughters get married and have children.

What you got?

 

 

 

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The Road to MBA

Hey y’all! Thank you so much for hanging with me! Life has been sooooo crazy, with the busyness that already accompanies the summer months, Taylor graduating from Pre-K, and finishing up my graduate degree.

This has been a longgggggg road,  three years filled with late nights, long papers, and never-ending threads. In between Morgan was born and life happened. But I’m still here! I am so grateful for all of the love and support that I experienced during this time. As an adult with a family, when you make the decision to go back to school it is not only an adjustment for you, but it is one for your entire household. When I get my degree on Sunday it should read LaChaya, Darrell, Taylor, Morgan, and Bernice because they were just as responsible for my completion of this than I am, I couldn’t have made it without my TEAM.

As I get ready to pull up to graduation on Sunday, my last stop on the Road to MBA; it is really a time of reflection for me. If I could be transparent with you guys…….I am nervous! The pressure is on to use all of this information that I learned, to continue to be productive, not get too relaxed, and not to mention student loans!!!!! As fear begins to sit in…..this feeling is all too familiar, this is the same feeling of uncertainty I felt when I first made the decision to start grad school…what if I fail…….what if the work is too much, and look at me now at the end of another chapter of life. I can’t wait to experience what the next chapter holds as I chase kids and BIG dreams.

Thanks again for your support!