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What goes in eventually comes out

What goes in eventually comes out! Literally and Figuratively! LOL

 As parents we do our best to teach our children what’s right and we only hope that one-day what we teach them they will exhibit or do on their own. Being a parent is what’s called a “Thankless Job” you do it day after day without a raise, reward, pat on the back, and even sometimes a thank you. Our greatest reward as a parent is to have raised a responsible, grateful, and respectful adult.
In our household we are not super religious, were not always praying aloud, holding hands, gospel music is not the only type of music we listen to, but we are raising our children to love God and one another, to pray, and to be grateful for everything they have. Last week the girls we’re playing in their room and writing. My youngest was giving my oldest names of family members to write and she took dictation, as a big sister should. My oldest that is six then asked “Can I write a letter to God?” I said “Sure!” She ran off to her room and a few minutes later she appeared with this letter to God.
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I listened as she read me the letter and tried not to let my eyes fill up with tear as I said “Good Job Baby!” I thought to myself, what you put into your child, eventually comes out. I hope letter brings you much joy and encourages you to write your own personal letter to God, not only that, but to parents of older children who may have lost their way despite you teaching them the right way. Don’t worry, what you put into your child eventually comes out. Sometimes it’s quick and other times it can take a while, but it will come out.
Be encouraged.
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What greater gift than love

I love Christmas time; it’s my favorite time of year! We get to spend time with our families, put smiles on faces, and most importantly give love. Yesterday, I watched the news (which I rarely do) and it was negative story one after another. In Pennsylvania, a 94-year-old man was robbed in his home and all of his Christmas gifts were stolen, in Chicago a man hit four cars and fled into an American Girl Store on the Magnificent Mile, and countless murders and robberies filled the news reports.

While many people are fighting, killing, and stealing to give Christmas gifts, Jahi McMath’s mother is hoping for a Christmas miracle so she can show her daughter not what she bought her for Christmas, but to give her the greatest gift she has…Love. Jahi McMath is a 13-year-old girl who went in for a routine tonsil removal surgery and is now brain-dead, and her mother is fighting to keep her on a ventilator, while the doctors want to remove it to end her life.

I didn’t intend to write about this today, but I can guarantee the last thing on this mothers Christmas list is a physical gift, but love for her daughter. Many people become depressed during the holiday season because they can’t afford to buy people gifts, but there is one gift better than anything you can buy in a store…. LOVE. Consider all of the people who receive gifts on Christmas, but don’t experience love all year-long. So if you find yourself on hard times, don’t feel bad Love goes a long way and it lasts forever.

This Christmas as you celebrate and show love to your families, say a quick prayer for a miracle for Jahi McMath and her family.

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Merry Christmas from One Haute Mommi and Family!

Guest Post: Our Children & Christmas

This guest post is from The Ring Club! The Ring Club is a new generation of married couple’s raised up by God to change the view of marriage in popular culture. We we provide spaces of meaning for married & engaged couples in the form of book clubs, dance lessons, weekly prayer lines, and much more.

I’m so excited to share their awesome work and words on One Haute Mommi! Enjoy!

Our Children & Christmas

I found the most appropriate scripture for this Advent Season (Advent is a four-week season leading into the Christian celebration of the birth/nativity of Jesus Christ) we are in.

The angel answered, “The Holy Spirit will come on you, and the power of the Most High will overshadow you. So the holy one to be born will be called the Son of God. (Luke 1:35)

In chapter one of the book of Luke, the birth of Jesus is being foretold. The Angel is telling Mary (Jesus’s mother), how her conception will happen. Two important things are explained in this scripture that shows us how we are to treat this time of year.

1.) “The Holy Spirit will come on you, and the power of the Most High will overshadow you”-Mary is an important figure (Luke 1:45), but it wasn’t about her. Your child is an important figure in your life and his/hers happiness is important to you…but it’s not about them. It’s our job to explain that to them as best we can. We have to explain to them that they have been overshadowed, so that Jesus gets the attention, glory and honor during this time of year.

2.) So the holy one to be born will be called the Son of God”- The most important aspect of this time of year, the person born is the Son God. Our children need to know who the Son of God is and what that means for their life. They need to know who he is more than they need to know how use Apple products, when the next (Retro) Jordan is releasing or how to ride a bike. Our job as parents is to teach them that it’s not about gifts; it’s about the Gift…who was born, died and resurrected for their sin, your sin, my sin and all of humanity.

If you’re reading this and think that I’m saying don’t celebrate Christmas, don’t buy your kids gifts…then I have been misunderstood. I’m saying, love on them through gifts and spending time but don’t ever forget to remember the Lord.

It’s pretty corny and over done, but “Jesus is the reason for the season”.

Merry Christmas!

Be sure to read other posts from The Ring Club!

Question: What ways do you use to show your children the real meaning of Christmas?

Feeling pretty crafty-creating Thanksgiving arts & crafts at home

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One thing I love to do with my girls at home are arts & crafts, it’s a great way to spend time together and brings out my inner childlike creativity. I can’t wait to do more with them!

Two nuggets I learned from my oldest daughter while doing our crafts.

1. Perfect is boring. She told me this 5 times! My interpretation, don’t spend so much time on making sure the lines are straight, the real beauty is in the creativity.

2. Make it your own. After we finished making our turkeys, they wanted to draw on them and make the turkeys their own. The perfectionist in me said, “no leave them as they are”! My oldest daughter said in art it’s ok to make it your own. She gave her turkey a heart. (This made me smile)

I hope this craft fosters great family moment’s in your household this Thanksgiving!

Paper Plate Turkey

Supplies

2 Paper Plates

Scissors

Stapler

A pack of Construction paper (red, brown, green, orange, yellow, white)

Glue Stick

Crayons or Markers

Click here to download my turkey craft traceable

Directions

First, take one paper plate and measure a sheet of brown construction paper over it. Cut the construction paper in the shape of the plate. Then, staple the brown circle to the paper plate. Take the second paper plate (you can also use a small paper plate) measure it with a large can or circular object and cut the plate into a small circle for the turkey’s head. Take another piece of construction paper and cover the smaller plate as before. Staple the paper to the plate.

Next, (use the guide provided, if needed) cut six feathers using multiple colors. Use the glue stick and stick the feathers between the paper plate and the construction paper. Next cut out two small circles, beak, wattle (my oldest taught me that term), wings, and feet. Glue them all to the turkey.

Finally, let your child decorate the turkey or write things they are thankful for on the craft.

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Have fun!

OHM

The problem with being the perfect parent

photo(1)“Perfect people lead to having perfect kids which make the perfect people perfect parents with a perfect life but in reality it puts plenty of profuse pressure on people.” –LaChaya D. Terry

Who told me I had to be a perfect mother? Sure weren’t my two girls! Did my husband tell me? Nope! Did my mother tell me she was a perfect mother and I should be one too? Nope!

I have come to the realization that I have put unrealistic expectations on my children and myself to be perfect, and it’s pretty stressful. When you start out at perfect what else is there to strive for and how much further up can you go?

1. “You don’t have to be perfect to be “the” perfect parent for your kids.” Parents make mistakes, fly off the handle, lose their patience, forget about a school trip, or lose a favorite toy. Don’t beat yourself up! Start new and fresh, learn from each opportunity, and make the necessary changes.

2. “Perfect can be dangerous.” I want to raise well-rounded children that aren’t afraid to mess up or to fail, but can dust themselves off, get back up, and not be afraid to try again. I’ve witnessed too many adults who never experienced disappointment until adulthood and it rocked them to the core.

3. “Don’t have comparisonitis” Your parenting style might not be the same as your family member, co-worker, or friend. Do what works best for your household and family!

4. “Kids will be kids” They will fight, cry, kick, scream, embarrass you, make you late, sleep in your bed, lose things, forget things, forget to use the potty, make bad decisions, giggle too much in class, like the wrong boy, say they hate you. IT’S ALL RIGHT! Be “their” perfect parent and not “the” perfect parent…love, hug, kiss, and embrace them for who they are, cherish every moment you have. They love you and you love them and it’s all that matters.

Before you know it they will grow up and strive to be perfect people with perfect kids being the perfect parents having the perfect life putting plenty of profuse pressure on them. Don’t pass it on.

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5 ways being a parent taught me to be a leader

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Family Matter’s is one of my favorite sitcoms from the 90s. The main character Steve Urkel filled the show with his unhelpful accidents, irritating snorts, and his famous “Did I do that?” The show also highlighted the Winslow family, who much like the Huxtable’s portrayed positive family values. In one episode, the mother Harriet went on a job interview and the interviewer asked her if she had supervisory experience and her response was yes, I have three children and a husband, I manage a household and it’s expenses, I cook meals, and manage several schedules! I am a leader!

Do you know you are leader? Yes, you…if you are a parent, can run a household, teach life lessons, mediate sibling rivalry, and still have something to smile about! You are a leader!

DISCLAIMER: I am not endorsing these thoughts to be used in an interview setting. These are merely my thoughts on how being a parent taught me to be a leader.

1. Know the who.

If you treat your 8-year-old like a 3-year-old it will blow up in your face like a bad science experiment. Know whom you are dealing with even adults.

2. BYOE (Bring your own energy)

Don’t let a screaming child or a difficult adult steal your energy or your joy for that matter. Bring your positive energy home and to work.

3. Manage the good.

See the good in people; it’s easy to focus on the bad parts. Write down 5 things you notice and admire about your children and your co-workers/employees.

4. Know who’s in charge.

Just as children need to be molded, corrected, and many times reeled back in, so do team members and employees. If you are in a position of leadership, use maturity and wisdom to communicate expectations.

5. Overnight Celebrity.

Embrace the process; don’t be discouraged if progress doesn’t happen overnight. Just as it takes 9 months to have a baby, it takes years to raise a child, and it also takes time to become a great and a respected leader.

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