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Haute Moms Have Purpose + Christina King-Rogers

Haute Mom’s Have Purpose is an interview series that features “Haute Mommi’s” who are not only experiencing great success in their careers, but also are present and active in their homes and personal lives. Let’s be inspired by the stories and advice by Moms who are just like us, Haute Moms with Purpose. 

This interview is one very close to my heart. It’s one thing to highlight Moms, but another thing to highlight a Mother whose story you’ve lived through. I have watched Christina evolve literally. She is my cousin, but more like my sister. As I told her a few months ago at her vow renewal, and I’m not ashamed to say it publicly, I am so inspired by your tenacity and drive to push forward past adversity and into your purpose. Christina has created her product not only with her hands but her heart. She is the budding entrepreneur and CEO behind Blessed Organic Essentials; she is teaching us and giving us the tools we need to take care of our beautiful skin. I know you will be inspired by her awesome story of triumph and purpose.

|Briefly introduce yourself and your passion/purpose.| 

I’m Christina King-Rogers, entrepreneur and creator of Blessed Organic Essential Fragrances established in 2014. I’m married to Mercedes and have three beautiful children Jayda 13, Christian  8, and Aaliyah 6. On August 5, 2015, I quit my job as an Office Manager and took a step of faith and fully committed to walking in my calling in the health and beauty industry.

|What’s your favorite quote or saying?| 

My favorite quote or saying is…Ephesians 3:20: Now unto him that is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we can ask or think according to the power that works within us.

|How do you find balance?|

I find my work/ life balance through making sure my family continues to be my priority at all times, whether that mean making sure we have home-cooked meals at least 5 days out the week where we sit and have family dinners or just being present at school to support their academic achievements or extracurricular activities. I pride myself on having one on one time right before bedtime to channel in on what transpired throughout the day with my husband and children. It gives them all an outlet to be able to have me as their support system.

|You have an amazing story of healing and triumph, Can you share it with us?|

In 2009 at the age of 29, I was diagnosed with Stage 3 Follicular Papillary Carcinoma …which is cancer of the thyroid with a goiter the size of a lemon in my neck. I was brought into an office alone with four doctors for them to tell me after a routine check-up and ultrasound that I needed to get surgery right away and undergo aggressive radioactive iodine treatment immediately. I left the hospital afraid for my life. All I can say was Lord have mercy on me… My thoughts were racing as I got in the car with tears streaming down my face “ what about my husband, children, and what is going to happen to me am I going to die” I felt lost in motherhood as I had to shift my focus from my family for a while to beat this cancer and fight for my life. God is amazing because I am here today 34 years old and after undergoing two major surgeries, two bouts of radioactive iodine treatment, and three reconstructive surgeries later. I am cancer free, here with my family, and living out my dreams.

Overcomer Christina Rogers

|How important is having support?|

Having a support system is so crucial and vital in my life with being a full-time mom, wife and entrepreneur especially during the school year when all of my children are on different schedules and participate in various activities, not to mention the deadlines and obligations that have to be met in a timely fashion. I accredit my husband and my mother-in-law giving their time without measure.

|How did you discover your purpose?|

I discovered my purpose while still working in corporate America. Once I knew was completed cleared in my health in 2014 I start making my essential oils for the health benefits that it provided my family and me. I also made a choice to live a healthy lifestyle from the inside out. Thereafter I began venturing off into creating my own Organic Skincare Line to provide health awareness and for me to give back to the world a product that is not only good for your skin but the mind, body and soul.

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|How important is it for mothers to find their purpose?|

Every mother has her personal journey and story. It is so important for us as women and most importantly as parents to find our purpose to gain our self-worth and fulfillment on earth. We provide so much within our homes, being teachers and nurturers, which our children need to see us succeeding in finding our purpose that it may inspire them to find their own.


|How do you stay inspired?|

I stay inspired through my passion for helping others and educating them about living a healthy lifestyle, helping them through own their health challenges, and of course my life journey keeps me grounded and humbled by it all.

|Have you ever experienced Mommy Guilt?|

I experience mommy guilt quite often especially during the peak times of business where I am up until 3 am fulfilling orders and haven’t spent much time with them all day. As a parent, you are unable to get that time back, so I make sure to remain present and give them my undivided attention when they require it.

|What is some advice you would like to share with other Moms?|

Moms, we are life givers and timeless. Our children are a heritage of the Lord, and the fruit of our womb is his reward. He has entrusted us with his precious gifts; we will not always understand the ways God takes our children or us but trust the process and most importantly trust God.

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Connect with Christina King-Rogers & Blessed Organic Essentials | Website |Facebook | Instagram

Haute Mom’s Have Purpose + Toni Robinson

Haute Mom’s Have Purpose is an interview series that features “Haute Mommi’s” who are not only experiencing great success in their careers, but also are present and active in their homes and personal lives. Let’s be inspired by the stories and advice by Moms who are just like us, Haute Moms with Purpose. 

 Being an active social media user it’s important for me to connect with people I wouldn’t normally have access to just going through everyday life. On Instagram I found inspiration in Toni Robinson the owner of Stilettos & Screwdrivers, an electronic repair service who repairs everything from your smartphone, computer, and even your dated Walkman (I hope you still don’t have a Walkman, just joking). It was refreshing to see not only a woman but a mother successfully build her business in a male-dominated field of electronic repair. Along with her Husband, Toni is building her brand, getting her hands dirty, and shattering glass ceilings all over the place. I hope her journey inspires you and when you have an electrical need or break the screen on your iPhone or Android, don’t hesitate to reach out to Toni of Stilettos & Screwdrivers!

| You’ve set out to change the face of technology and electronic repair, how did you get to this point and how did you see the need? |

 I’ve been in this business for over 15 years and one thing that has remained a constant is the lack of woman counterparts in my field. In school as well as in starting my career I was one of or the only female in the bunch, let alone black female. I want that to change because technology is such a profitable field to get into, opportunities to advance are here. Growing up as an inner city youth, you aren’t exposed to enough role models you can look up to and say “yes I think I can be an engineer”! We weren’t and still may not have that chance to see faces like ours doing computer tech work or digital design. So I felt the need to be the face a little girl or an underprivileged child sees and believe they too can achieve this goal of becoming an engineer or technician. It should be a normal occurrence that they see someone like me and believe in themselves. It’s not typical you see a woman owning an electronic repair company well; here I am!! I want to break stereotypes and defy the odds. It’s only right.

| What’s your favorite quote or saying? |

 It’s actually a scripture Proverbs 1:5, that is my favorite it says “A wise person listens and takes in more instruction; A man of understanding acquires skillful direction”.

 | You made a huge decision to leave your comfort zone and to take on a field dominated predominately by men. What was your motivation? |

 I started at a very young age with my mother’s coercion. She didn’t know what the field entailed, but she knew the technology field was a booming industry, and she told me to give it a try. I first started off in a trade school in high school that specialized in electronics and electrical courses. It allowed me to be then chosen to be an apprentice and learn firsthand how to troubleshoot and do repairs on real machinery. At that point I knew I wanted to continue in the field of electronics. I was always the only girl, even still I felt like I belonged there. I wanted to show the boys I can do what they do even better at times. It was always cool to see people’s reaction when I came to do a repair. Hopefully in the future it won’t be a surprise to see a female as a technician. My motivation most definitely is my children. They have this confidence that they can do anything, and I know seeing mom getting her hands dirty and do hard jobs is one reason they feel so confident. I let them be in my work environment, I let them know they can do anything they put their mind too. So instilling that in them gives me motivation because I have to be continuously the example of being able to do anything I put my mind too.
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| How do you find balance if that’s possible? |

 It is very difficult because it’s easy for one aspect of life to overshadow another but scheduling everything, giving adequate time for everything is necessary. Planning quality time for the family each week is necessary. When I’m home there is a certain amount of time for work then I give them my full undivided attention. Everything has a time and place.

| How important is having support? |

 I don’t know what I would do without it. I’m fortunate enough to have an amazingly, supportive husband that I can lean on to pick up the slack at home, and since we are in the same field, he helps with repairs as well. He will take the children out when I have to work late. He gives a listening ear. Support is everything.

| How important is it for mothers to find their purpose? |

I feel it’s absolutely necessary. We as mom’s get wrapped up with everyone else that we may lose our identity. Other than being a wife, a mommy who are You? It’s nothing wrong with having individuality.

| How did you discover your purpose? |

 I’ve always been a little different from everyone else. I use to hide my likes from other because they were not like my peers. Then I realized how stifled I felt, and for what? So I wanted to be an advocate for being yourself. Being different is what makes us unique from one another. Embrace it. My purpose came at a late age when I began to accept myself. Eccentric, eclectic, geek, diva, having so many facets of yourself, and embracing it, you inspire others to dig deep and see what they can give to the world. This allowed me the guts to venture out and develop an electronic repair company because I feel I can inspire others in an area dominated by males. Yes, I wear heels and makeup, yes I love to dress up and yes I can fix your laptop and phone with these items on lol.

| What’s the best advice you’ve ever received? |

 When trying to accomplish a goal don’t get too wrapped up with completing the goal that you miss out on enjoying the journey. There is so much to learn on each step leading to your final destination.
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| How do you stay inspired? |

I always think of progressing, making myself a little better every day. I stay inspired by not forgetting who looks up to me. I remain motivated by knowing I am a role model that has to continue to reinvent herself.

| What advice would you like to share with other Mom’s? |

 Be the best mommy you can possibly be, give them love affection and attention, but don’t lose yourself in the process. Always do something that doesn’t involve any of the titles you hold as wife or mom. Do something you love. Keep your individuality and don’t feel bad for wanting to do so.

 Connect with Toni and Stiletto’s & Screwdrivers | Website |Instagram | Facebook

Haute Mom’s Have Purpose + Camesha Gosha

Haute Mom’s Have Purpose is an interview series that features “Haute Mommi’s” who are not only experiencing great success in their careers, but also are present and active in their homes and personal lives. Let’s be inspired by the stories and advice by Moms who are just like us, Haute Moms with Purpose. 

Camesha is such a breath of fresh air! Our blogs have very similar missions to see moms be their best at motherhood, but also in their careers. She wants to change the face of motherhood through seeing moms inspired, motivated, and most of all happy! Read more about Camesha below and don’t forget to visit her beautiful website!

|Briefly introduce yourself and your passion/purpose.| 

I’m Camesha Gosha of Camesha.com. I’m a mama, wife, author + former network TV writer/producer. I’ve made some huge changes in my life to allow me to stay at home with my kids. It’s been a crazy journey but one I’m thankful for. My passion is encouraging other moms to find and follow their passions/dreams. After I had kids, I heard that my dreams would have to be put on the back burner and that just didn’t sit right with me. I didn’t see a reason that I should wait until my kids are adults before I start following my dreams. From modeling to authoring a book, I’ve made it happen while being a mama. My goal is to be an awesome mom while following my dreams.

|What’s your favorite quote or saying?| 

My favorite quote is “There’s freedom waiting for you on the breezes of the sky. And you ask “What if I fall?” Oh, but my darling, what if you fly? – Erin Hanson I love it so much, I just had a pillow made with the quote on it.

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|What’s on your iPod?|

On my iPod right now are toddler tunes! I have all of these Disney and Sesame Street stations for my kids. I mix it up every now and then with Bruno Mars, Pharrell Williams and Michael Jackson. They LOVE Michael Jackson.

|What are you reading now?|

Right now, I’m reading Launch by Jeff Walker. It’s about launching products for sale online. Learning lots of good stuff!

|How many kids do you have and what are their ages?|

I have two children. I have a 5-year-old son and a 2-year-old daughter. They keep my hands full! Never a dull moment.

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|How do you find balance?|
Finding balance is a day to day thing for me. Some days are definitely better than others. It’s a perfect day when I feel like the kids have gotten what they need (play, learning, etc) and then there’s time in the day for me to do something for me. I really try to make that time. It makes me a better mama. When my daughter takes her nap, I have time to relax a bit, work a bit or whatever else it is I feel like I need for me. If I’ve met my needs it’s so much easier for me to meet theirs.
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|Was there ever a moment where you felt lost in motherhood?| 
 Making the switch from being a working mom to a SAHM had me feeling lost for a minute. I had to find my identity in this new role. I was determined to be here for my kids and just as determined to be there for myself. I didn’t want to get lost in all I do for them and have nothing for myself. With two kids who need me for just about everything, that’s not always easy to do.
|How important is having support?|
I’ve found that having support is vital. I learned the hard way because I don’t have much. My husband and I live here in Los Angeles with no family around. All of our family is on the other side of the country. We rely on each other to make things happen.
|How did you discover your purpose?|
Discovering my purpose was quite the journey. I should have known that part of it involved writing. That’s all I’ve ever done. Motivating others again wasn’t something I thought about. It’s just something I’ve always done. I love to see people doing + living in a way that makes them happy. If I can serve to motivate along the way – awesome!Working Hard-HMHP
|How important is it for mothers to find their purpose?|
I think it is vital for any of us to find our purpose. I have a special passion for moms though. As a mom, I know it can be hard to find time and brain space for anything else outside of our families. At the same time, it’s even more important that we find that time. Making room for purpose not only serves us but our kids too. I tend to think of it this way – the kids will grow up and move out. When that day comes, I want to be able to say I took the time to invest in myself by finding and living my purpose. Being an example for them to live on purpose is part of my job as their mama.
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|What’s the best advice you’ve ever received?|
Someone shared this quote with me once and it really stuck. “Life is not a dress rehearsal.” Every since I let that sink in I have worked hard to live the life I want right now. Knowing that we only get one go round makes me not want to waste time not being happy.
|How do you stay inspired?|
I stay inspired by always looking forward. When things seem to be going left, I think about what the end result of all my hard work will look like. That keeps me inspired to keep working toward it.
|Have you ever experienced Mommy Guilt?|
I’ve definitely experienced mommy guilt. As a working mom, I was worried I wasn’t spending enough time with my kids.I worked in television and it’s not always family friendly. Things can change at the last hour and late nights weren’t uncommon. I felt like I was missing too much. Now that I’m at home, I feel guilty about all the time my daughter gets with me that my son didn’t. There’s always something to feel guilty about. We just have to figure out how to manage it and balance the guilt with the good stuff.
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|What is some advice you would like to share with other Moms?|
My advice for other moms is to make sure to enjoy the journey of motherhood. It looks different for all of us. It has its ups and downs but it really is special. The bond and the influence we have with the little people we bring into this world is nothing short of a miracle. Try to remember that when they’re bouncing off the walls and you wanna pull your hair out. lol
Connect with Camesha | Twitter | Facebook | Website 

Haute Mom’s Have Purpose + Christine St. Vil

Christine St. Vil-HMHP

Haute Mom’s Have Purpose is an interview series that features “Haute Mommi’s” who are not only experiencing great success in their careers, but also are present and active in their homes and personal lives. Let’s be inspired by the stories and advice by Moms who are just like us, Haute Moms with Purpose. 

I met Christine through a bloggers group we are both a part of. She is such as inspiration not only to mothers like myself but has a wealth of knowledge as a business woman when it comes to entrepreneurship, blogging, purpose, social media, and empowerment. Christine’s vision is similar to mine, she wants to change the face of motherhood through helping women take charge of their lives by defining and igniting their purpose in both life and business. She is a dynamic speaker, social media guru, author, and best of all a wife and mother. Read more about Christine below and be sure to check out her website and her highly acclaimed book Whose Shoes Are You Wearing? 12 Steps to Uncovering the Woman You Really Want to Be. 

|Briefly introduce yourself and your passion/purpose.| 

My name is Christine St.Vil and I’m the Founder/CEO of Moms ‘N Charge™, a division of Purpose Driven Media, LLC. My passion is helping moms pursue their goals and dreams, in addition to being a great mom. I’m also passionate about teaching and training, and love helping women in business (especially moms) create a social media strategy that aligns with their life vision/purpose.

|What’s your favorite quote or saying?| 

One of my favorite quotes is: “Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.” It’s a great reminder that we don’t have to always have every detail in place, and every check box marked off. The key is to staying in action and doing what you can with what you have.

HMHP-Christine St. Vil

|What’s on your iPod?|

Ha! A mix of everything. I mostly listen to gospel music, love Mary Mary, Tye Tribbett, Yolanda Adams, William McDowell and others. But I also have Kelly Clarkson, Janet Jackson, Usher and everything in between. My most recent and current favorite download is the “Beyond the Lights” soundtrack and Annie (for the kids, or course lol).

|What are you reading now?|

I just finished Act Like a Success, Think Like a Success (GREAT book). And I’m now reading Angel’s Laws of Blogging (Founder of Concrete Loop.com).

|How many kids do you have and what are their ages?|

I have 3 beautiful babies, one boy (age 7) and two girls (ages 5 & 3).

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|How do you find balance?|
I actually cringe when I hear “balance”. I honestly don’t believe that there’s a such thing. But I do believe that I juggle things well. As I stated in this previous article, you can’t give 100% to everything at the same time. If you’re rocking it out in one area of your life, another area is probably not as stellar. And that will probably change from day-to-day, week to week. And guess what? It’s okay. Some days I’m killing it with homeschooling and some days I’m not. Some days I’m killing it in my business and some days I’m not. And I’m okay with that. (if you want to link to my full article on this topic, here it is: Motherhood and Balance Don’t Mix & Here’s Why)
|Was there ever a moment where you felt lost in motherhood?| 
Absolutely! I talk about it all the time, especially because I know so many other moms can relate. I definitely became a “victim of identity theft” due to motherhood after I had my third child and became
Absolutely! I talk about it all the time, especially because I know so many other moms can relate. I definitely became a “victim of identity theft” due to motherhood after I had my third child and became an SAHM (Stay at home Mom). I didn’t realize how much I had allowed my corporate job to define who I was, and how much I enjoyed that part of my identity until I no longer had it. At the time, going to work gave me a sense of purpose. But becoming an SAHM, I struggled to figure out what that was. I struggled with postpartum depression after I had my third child and a lot of it, I believe, had to do with not really knowing and loving who I was deep down.
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|How important is having support?|
I can’t stress enough about the importance of having a support system. When I coach my clients who say they don’t have family or friends close by, or who support them, I encourage them to go out and create their own support system. When I was going through PPD, I found support in online communities, from complete strangers that could relate to exactly what I was going through. I also looked for mommy support groups in my area and ended up joining my local Mocha Moms group.
|How did you discover your purpose?|
When I started my company, I knew that I was on a mission to help moms discover their own purpose, and not allow the mom guilt to keep them from pursuing their goals and dreams. But when I co-authored my first book with my sister last year, I think that was the defining moment that I was on the right track. The testimonials we’ve received from people who have been able to forgive themselves for nothing they had control over, or from those who needed to hear exactly what we shared, has been humbling. It’s made us push even more to help more women to uncover the woman they were truly meant to be.
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|How important is it for mothers to find their purpose?|
 I truly think it’s so important. I wrote an article about this and someone made a comment that they wished their mom had followed her own dreams, because years later, she felt cheated as her daughter. I believe we have to set the example for our children. How can we encourage our children to go after their dreams, and to encourage them that they can do anything and be anything they want, but yet, we’re not doing the same? I want my children to be inspired and see me as that example to go after what they want in life.
|What’s the best advice you’ve ever received?|
I’ve received so much great advice over the years, especially since starting my business. But one of the best pieces of advice, when you’re pursuing your purpose and passion in life, is that it’s not about me. It’s not about you. Fear will creep up. Anxiety and stress will set in. But when you take the focus off of you and on to the person/people who are waiting to hear your message, it makes things much easier.
|How do you stay inspired?|
By connecting with people like you who have a similar mindset and drive. I listen to motivational podcasts and YouTube clips almost daily. I read inspirational quotes daily and as much as possible, I try to eliminate the negativity that I engage with.
|Have you ever experienced Mommy Guilt?|
I definitely have! I think it’s a requirement of being a mom 🙂 But one of the things that has helped tremendously (since my mommy guilt stemmed from trying to build my business and trying to start homeschooling and spending time with the kids) is involving the kids. I talk to them about what I do, the classes I teach. They know all about my book, Whose Shoes Are You Wearing? They can tell you about Moms ‘N Charge. When I tell them that I’m teaching class or that I have to travel to speak, they get excited. They think I’m a pretty cool mommy so that makes me happy 🙂
|What is some advice you would like to share with other Moms?|
Do what works for you. There is no one–size-fits-all when it comes to motherhood. There’s a lot of great advice out there. Take it and tweak it to work for your family. Don’t allow yourself to get flustered or overwhelmed because you feel you should be doing all of the twenty things a week with your children that you see another mom doing.
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Connect with Christine | Twitter | Facebook | Website 


Haute Mom’s Have Purpose + Dr. Tara Jenkins

HMHP-Dr Tara Jenkins

Haute Mom’s Have Purpose is an interview series that features “Haute Mommi’s” who are not only experiencing great success in their careers, but also are present and active in their homes and personal lives. Let’s be inspired by the stories and advice by Moms who are just like us, Haute Moms with Purpose. 

I love this lady! She is one of the nicest people I know! When I first decided to launch this interview series, she was the first person I thought of. She probably doesn’t know this, but she is one of the reasons I began to seek out my purpose. After one bible study at my Chicago church home, she introduced me to a book that forever changed my outlook on life “Just Enough Light for the Step I’m On” by Stormie Omartian and I have never been the same. Enough about me…

Dr. Tara Jenkins is an amazing wife, mother, creative communicator of God’s word, a passionate leader, she sings, plays the piano, can spit spoken word and 16 bars with the best of them, proficient in ballet, and can tap dance in 4 inch heels! She is the beautiful wife and Chief Encouragement Officer to Pastor and Singer Charles Jenkins whose single “This Means War” is climbing the Billboard charts and brand new video was just released this week! Click here to watch the official video”This Means War” Keep up with Dr. Tara via her blog titled “Chief Encouragement Officer” at tarajenkins.org 

|Briefly introduce yourself and your passion/purpose.| 

I’m Tara Jenkins, I was born and raised in the small town of Jackson, Tennessee, but I am now learning how to raise 3 amazing kids who were born in the big city of Chicago! My passion and purpose is to motivate women, wives and girls to maximize their potential in every area of their lives.

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|What’s your favorite quote or saying?| 

One of my favorite quotes is, “Never accept a ‘no’ from someone who never had the power to give you a ‘yes’ in the first place. I have seen others be discouraged by critics and I have experienced it myself. However, your discouragers should never frustrate you to the point of inactivity! I like to encourage the discouraged by saying, “Do what you were created to do, not what you are expected to do…”

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|What’s on your iPod?|

My iPod may have every genre of music that’s on iTunes! From a little country from Keith Urban, Lady Antebellum(thanks to my Tennessee roots), to a little pop with Vintage Bieber(thanks to the kids), a little stepping music from R. Kelly(thanks to 18 years in Chicago), a little hip hop from Doug E. Fresh(because of my love for all types of dance), and of course I have countless gospel artists on my iPod, especially Charles Jenkins who is the reason I am a mother!!(Lol)

|What are you reading now?|

My reading is usually geared toward preparing to teach from the bible. Right now, I am enjoying the book of Proverbs, which has 31 chapters, so it’s a perfect way to read a chapter of wisdom every day.

|How many kids do you have and what are their ages?|

I am blessed to have 3 kids, who are 11 & 10-year old girls and a 6-year old boy.

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|How do you find balance?|
One of my mentors taught me early on, that life is not a balancing act, it’s a juggling act. There are certain times when you have to be hands on in a particular situation and then seasons change. The key is knowing what can hang in the air when!
|Was there ever a moment where you felt lost in motherhood?| 
The only reason, that I don’t feel lost every day is because I have motherhood guides around at all times! I feel like I am learning as I go. You can easily feel lost if you’re isolated and don’t seek advice.
|How is having support important?|
Trying to be a mother without support is a guaranteed way to self-destruct. Women must relinquish the desire and control to do-it-all and be honest about what areas support is needed. It is our pride that feeds this unhealthy cycle. The Proverbs 31 woman had staff that helped her handle her role!
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|How did you discover your purpose?|
My purpose is consistently revealed through my frustrations. It bothers me internally to see beautiful, talented women, wives, and girls live as a lesser version of themselves. So I have a passion for convening these groups and equip them to be more! If someone is seeking their true purpose, they should ask themselves what bothers them the most!
|How important is it for mothers to find their purpose?|
 It is imperative for mothers to discover their purpose because our children are our greatest imitators. The kids need to see this process of living in purpose unfold in their parents’ lives so that they will know how to do the same.
|What’s the best advice you’ve ever received?|
The best advice I received was to relinquish doing what others can do and invest my time in doing those things that only I am created to do.
|How do you stay inspired?|
I stay inspired by having a circle of friends who are go-getters and not go-sitters. Their risk-taking personalities keep me out of the box!
|What is some advice you would like to share with other Moms?|
I want every mom to remember to have fun in each season. The hustle and bustle of baby bottles, diapers, doctors appointments, then school, homework, and extracurricular activities can drain the fun out of life. When it’s possible, plan a do-nothing day to chill, laugh and wear footed pajamas together all day long!

Connect with Dr. Tara Twitter | Web


5 Ways to Make Personal Growth a Priority

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“The key to ultimate happiness and fulfillment lies within our transformation. The more we learn and grow and evolve as individuals, the more we will find happiness and satisfaction in relationships, work, and life.”
― Kristi Bowman
Since the day we are born, it is an expectation that we are to grow physically and mentally. When you are a child, you can’t wait to become a year older and to matriculate from one grade level to the next. As parents, we expect our kids to grow, in fact growing makes us happy. It gives us a sense of accomplishment and fulfillment. Should the expectation be the same in the workplace? Outside of the monetary satisfaction how does work contribute to your quality of life?When you think about it, you spend more time at work than you do at home with your family. Many people spend those 8-10 hours being completely unhappy, unsatisfied, not experiencing personal growth, and consequently that unhappiness spills over into their home lives and lingers in personal relationships. We are just a few days shy of the 2nd month of 2015, and our quality of life should be top on our list of what we expect to accomplish this year.Quality of life is defined as the standard of health, comfort, and happiness experienced by an individual or group.

I am grateful to have worked for two non-profits who took pride in promoting individual growth, provided access to resources, and even showed interest in projects and personal aspirations. My own vested interest in my growth is important to me in the workplace and outside of it. I realized a long time ago my personal growth was my responsibility. I was in charge of my growth, promotions, and also limitations.

I realize that everyone doesn’t have the luxury to work in an environment where personal growth is accepted and its more like the crabs in a barrel environment. No matter which category your personal growth lies in, I have compiled five ways you, yourself, and you can do to ensure you experience the growth necessary to experience the quality of life you deserve.

1. Find out who you are.

You cannot, I repeat cannot know where you are going, unless you know who you are! If you want to experience personal growth in the workplace or outside of it for that matter, you have to first know what you are reaching for. Many times we can become frustrated about where we are and make rash decisions when it pertains to our career, partly because we haven’t discovered our purpose yet.

2. Make a commitment to grow.

I remember when I first started my working in the non-profit field, I was working in finance. I had no previous financial experience, but I was willing to learn and grow. Almost every year (outside of my scheduled employee evaluation) I submitted a growth plan to my boss and it contained my highs and lows of the year, what I could work on, and where I wanted to be in the next year. I made it clear to my employer before he ever presented it to me that I had a commitment to personal growth.

3. Connect with others who want to see you grow.

It is a great thing to be surrounded by people who wish to see you become. If you don’t have people around you that fit where you are going, it may be time to seek them out. If you have a boss who is open and want to see you experience growth have a conversation with them about your aspirations, allow them to evaluate your strengths and weaknesses, don’t be afraid to ask for more challenging assignments and responsibility.

4. Keep learning and enhancing your skills.

Many times we get comfortable and become stagnant, and before we know it, we haven’t moved in five years. One of the best ways to combat that type of behavior is with learning and exposing you to new ideas and opportunities. Most companies offer tuition reimbursement take advantage of those programs and take a class, go to seminars, conferences, and make it happen. Many times we can be inclined to sit back and wait for others to acknowledge and notice us, but the responsibility lies in our hands.

5. Do it for your happiness.

When you experience personal growth your quality of life changes. You will thank you and the people around you will notice the difference in your personality when you are experiencing personal growth.

Leave me a comment below! I want to hear from you, what would be #6 on your list of making personal growth a priority?

For more information about the six aspects of The Quality of Life and Sodexo’s mission visit http://www.qualityoflifeobserver.com/

Hello Again. Welcome to 2015.

Instagram Post-2I’m an 80’s baby and growing up in the 90s, remixes reigned supremee on our radios and the ever so popular single cassette tape I popped into my boom box. Many songs had remixed versions that seemed to go harder than the original versions, so much so that if today I played you a version of certain songs you would look at me side-eyed as if that wasn’t the song you remembered. Who could ever forget the infamous remix of Jodeci’s “Come and talk to me“, Destiny’s Child “No No No Part 2”, or Brandy’s “I want to be down ” remix featuring Queen Latifah, MC Lyte, and YoYo.
Have you ever seen a vintage home originally built in the 1800’s or early 1900’s completely revitalized with modern touches and it’s original detail giving it the essence of a completely new home?Beautiful right? Diddy thought he invented the remix, but I beg to differ. As I began to pray, plan and strategize for 2015 I began to throw out words I needed to model my year after. As you know in 2014 my word for the year was Jump (if you have not read it you can click here and here to be brought up to speed). As I began to throw out ideas words like revitalize, repurpose, refocus, and readjust kept coming up. Then the word Again came up. I repeated Hello Again.
I write stuff down, that’s what I do. Sometimes I write in a Moleskine notebook, other times really small on post-it notes, and most of the time in Evernote. As I glanced through these notes, I realized that year after year I came up with new ideas, new business plans, new to-dos, but eventually moved on to newer shinier ideas. So what happened to those ideas i never worked on do they just sit in my notebook like a trophy on a mantle as to say look what i thought of or do I take them and breathe life into them again. Now I’m not saying every idea or thought needs to be resurrected, just the ones that mirror my purpose, where I currently am, or where I’m looking to go in the future.
I found my purpose in Again, so I’m just crazy enough to think that maybe God hid some other treasures in thoughts, ideas, and visions he previously gave me. God doesn’t only give us new things, but his specialty is making all things new! 2015 will be my year of Again! Hello Again.
Jump again.
 Begin again.
 Born again.
Dream again.
Laugh again.
Love again.
Start again.
Succeed again.
 Start over again.
Write again.
Breathe again.
Create again.
 Live again.
 Try again.
Revisit again.
Find purpose again.
I saw this meme on social media a few times over the past week and it is so fitting to this post. There is something in each one of our lives we need to revisit or pursue again. That might be the one thing that introduces you to your purpose.
What are some areas in your life you need to say Hello Again to? Leave me a comment below!
P.S., Please, please (don’t make me beg) take my survey as I look to enhance in 2015! It’s only open for a few more days! Click here to take my 2015 Reader Survey.
Be encouraged! Happy New Year! #HelloAgain2015

34 years…34 life-changing moments

34 life-changing moments

Experience is not what happens to a man; it is what a man does with what happens to him.”
Aldous Huxley

There’s something about getting older that brings about reflection. Today I celebrate my 34th birthday and I decided to reflect on 34 life-changing moments that played a major role in my development and who I am. I firmly believe every experience whether good or bad molds us into our best selves. Everyday I’m learning to appreciate every moment.

1. The moment I was born.
2. The moments I didn’t have a care in the world.
3. The moment I was introduced to God.
4. The moment I knew I could have it all.
5. The moments I walked across those stages.
6. The moments I doubted my existence.
7. The moments I wanted to give up.
8. The moments I gave up, made me better.
9. The moments I thought I knew it all.
10. The moment I wanted to end it all.
11. The moment when I realized that God’s plans for me were bigger than I could ever imagine.
12. The moment when I decided to just be myself
13. The moment when I realized that no one could stop me but me.
14. The moment when what used to matter to me really didn’t matter anymore
15. The moment I stopped comparing myself to others because who they are isn’t what it’s cracked up to be anyway.
16. The moment I was heart broken.
17. The moment I embraced my individuality.
18. The moment I let go of my past hurts because it’s not worth holding on to.
19. The many moments I made mistakes.
20. The moment I embraced the process.
21. The moment I started praying extravagant prayers.
22. The moment God heard me.
23. The moment I got fired.
24. The moment I knew my worth.
25. The moment I felt good enough.
26. The moment I realized happiness was tied to people, but joy was found within myself.
27. The moment I experienced real love and said yes.
28. The moment I knew motherhood was one of the toughest yet rewarding jobs I will ever have.
29. The moment I started this blog.
30. The moment I walked in faith.
31. The moment I felt fulfilled.
32. The moment I discovered my purpose.
33. The moment I jumped.
34. The moment I started living my dreams.


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Jump Series: Take a dive (Part One)

2014-10-14 13.03.22Take a dive (verb): Taking a dive refers to purposefully losing a competition for personal gain (urban dictionary)

New Years Resolutions are a trip. You set them. You break them. You start over , look up and it’s December all over again. Jump. Jump was not a resolution at all, but one word. One word I would use to set the standard of my year. One word to push myself when I was fearful.



Jump further.
Jump higher.
Jump faster.
Jump when you’re tired.
Jump when you’re sore.
Whatever you do…don’t stop Jumping.

This is not a factious account of something I witnessed, but my personal account of what it means to jump into the sea of my fears, eyes filled with tears, anticipating the rush of water into my face as if this was my last adventure only to realize that I’m only getting started. Jump.

2014 has been a eye-opening year, I moved with my family to a new state, started a new job, and embraced a new reality with the people I love. Did I foresee this on December 31, 2013 when I boldly declared in January I was going to Jump? No! It’s funny how our plans are not our on plans and until this very day, I’m still in awe. In life there are decisions we have to make but the first decision is not putting limitations on our lives. We have to allow God to take us where his car drives us and be open to his direction. I took a dive. Was I in competition with someone? Not at all. I was in competition with myself. Competing to be the best version of myself. Competing to be an example to my daughters and to show them what sacrifice and faith looks like. With my eyes open wide…I jumped.

Stayed tuned for part two.

There are 65 days left in 2014. What areas in your life are you going to jump in? Leave me a comment!

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What’s the lesson here? Finding hope in your journey.

photoFor me one of the most awkward things in life is to be driving in a car and I have no idea where I am going. The GPS has the directions but it has this awkward silence sort of thing going on, and I’m wondering where the heck am I and really hoping it says something soon, because I don’t know any who enjoys being lost. At every intersection I am looking at the signs to see if it’s my turn or thinking am I headed in the right direction?? Isn’t that sort of how following your dreams are, you go down different streets praying you are going in the right direction, at every point in your journey you are anticipating each turn, because the last thing you want to do is to have to turn around and start all over again.

As much as I would like to fast forward through life to experience success and realize my dreams, I have to learn to appreciate the ride. Enjoy each level, because each level comes with a lesson, and I will need those lessons later in my journey. It’s ok to anticipate, because anticipation can be an anecdote to fear. If you anticipate certain things that come along with chasing your dreams or success, there is no room for fear, and when you anticipate those things you can be prepared.

I don’t know one person that would say they enjoy pain, heartache, disappointment, rejection, haters, frustration, setbacks, and failure. Without these negative feelings, I wouldn’t have experienced positive ones like resiliency, appreciation, faith, trust, confirmation, and flexibility.  As I look back on different situations I have experienced throughout my life and in my career, I can honestly say I appreciate the journey and understand the lesson. If I could go back there would many things I would choose to change, but many I wouldn’t because the lessons have been so beneficial.

Life is a road trip not a one-stop destination. Take the trip and enjoy the journey.

What life lessons have your journey taught you?


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