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5 ways being a parent taught me to be a leader

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Family Matter’s is one of my favorite sitcoms from the 90s. The main character Steve Urkel filled the show with his unhelpful accidents, irritating snorts, and his famous “Did I do that?” The show also highlighted the Winslow family, who much like the Huxtable’s portrayed positive family values. In one episode, the mother Harriet went on a job interview and the interviewer asked her if she had supervisory experience and her response was yes, I have three children and a husband, I manage a household and it’s expenses, I cook meals, and manage several schedules! I am a leader!

Do you know you are leader? Yes, you…if you are a parent, can run a household, teach life lessons, mediate sibling rivalry, and still have something to smile about! You are a leader!

DISCLAIMER: I am not endorsing these thoughts to be used in an interview setting. These are merely my thoughts on how being a parent taught me to be a leader.

1. Know the who.

If you treat your 8-year-old like a 3-year-old it will blow up in your face like a bad science experiment. Know whom you are dealing with even adults.

2. BYOE (Bring your own energy)

Don’t let a screaming child or a difficult adult steal your energy or your joy for that matter. Bring your positive energy home and to work.

3. Manage the good.

See the good in people; it’s easy to focus on the bad parts. Write down 5 things you notice and admire about your children and your co-workers/employees.

4. Know who’s in charge.

Just as children need to be molded, corrected, and many times reeled back in, so do team members and employees. If you are in a position of leadership, use maturity and wisdom to communicate expectations.

5. Overnight Celebrity.

Embrace the process; don’t be discouraged if progress doesn’t happen overnight. Just as it takes 9 months to have a baby, it takes years to raise a child, and it also takes time to become a great and a respected leader.

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Can’t we all just get along?

Happy Monday!

My daughter’s Taylor and Morgan are four years old and eighteen months and these days they can’t seem to get along! I know you are probably thinking it’s Taylor taking advantage of her baby sister, NOOOOO it’s the little sister that tries to attack her big sister for the smallest reasons. I don’t know if it’s some sort of payback to Taylor for the times she snatched toys from Morgan when she was a defenseless infant or what?? This worries me because I wonder what type of relationship will they have when they get older and if they are fighting like this at 4 and 18 months what are they going to do at 14 and 17???

I never had to go through this as a child, my brother and I are 13 years apart and we never really had an interest in the same thing at the same time. I asked my pediatrician for some advice and she told me instead of saying No, No when Morgan hits Taylor, is for Taylor to express her pain and say ouch and then for me to show Taylor love for being hurt, and Morgan will feel left out of the affection and stop hitting. Well that didn’t work, that only made Morgan more angry because Taylor was laying on me and she wasn’t.

So I am taking suggestions! I need help from you parents with multiple children or people with siblings close in age that may have faced similar situations in the past, how do you deal with sibling rivalry?