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When people don’t support your dream

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Isn’t this what we all want? LOL
downloadOn a more serious note…Believe it or not, I started writing this post in July 2013. I added to it several times but never pursued completing it because I didn’t want to sound as if I was resentful. Earlier this week a conversation between fellow bloggers on a network I’m a part of led to a nudge in my back and awakened these words from my safe place. Most of my posts begin like that, I go back and forth, I’m going to share this, nope not sharing that, and eventually I share and it never fails…someone reaches out to me and says thank you that was for me. So here I am again…if you’ve chosen to follow your dreams, start a business, write a book, go back to school, quit your job, and support is lacking…this is for you. Be Encouraged.
What to do when people don’t support you?
When you make a huge ginormous decision to do something great the first people, you will assume to help or support you would be the people closest to you, your friends and family. Unfortunately, this is not always the case! You send out a mass text, emails, bring it up at family gatherings and the people closest to you still don’t give their support. When this happens it’s easy to think, what is wrong with me, am I really walking in my purpose, and you begin to doubt your gift and decisions.I have a great support system, but even I have friends and family members who have probably never read this blog, commented, liked, or shared one post, and I’m okay with that. I have people who are invested, who read almost every post, comment frequently, call, and send me inspiring text messages and emails. I’ve learned over time, that’s what matters most.
Here are three things you need to do when people don’t support you:
1. Don’t take it personal, It’s not about you!
Unless it’s some true hateration going on, it’s not about you. Your friends and family aren’t necessarily setting out to not support your dream or venture. It could be that they don’t understand what you’re doing and don’t know how to help you. Personally, I think that silence from some people is golden. I would rather have someone not say anything at all than to give me all of the reasons why I shouldn’t do something and show opposition.
2. Support someone else’s dream.
You want support, giving support is the best way to get it in return. Instead using useless energy focusing on what someone else isn’t doing, turn that energy into the fuel you need to push someone else further. Many times we freely tell people what our dreams are, but we fail to inquire about theirs. Simply ask someone “What’s your dream and how can I support you?”
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 3. Be too focused to notice.
Don’t pause for the applause. Your purpose isn’t tied to support, it’s linked to investment. Find a network of people who will support you and invest in your dream, these are the people who will assist you in taking your dream or business to the next level. Don’t allow who you don’t have to, to make you feel like giving up. Stay focused on your goal.
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I saw this quote awhile ago “Friends won’t start supporting you until strangers start celebrating you.” Do you think this is true? Leave me a comment below.

Supporting what matters









Sometimes we don’t realize how blessed we are just to have our health, a place to sleep, and safety. This week, my four-year old Taylor has been sick and as a parent it felt like the end of the world because no parent wants to see their child ill or uncomfortable. Yesterday, on our way from the doctor’s office, she spotted a man sleeping under the viaduct and she said why is that man sleeping outside, why doesn’t he go home. I explained to her that some people aren’t fortunate to have a place to live because they may not have a job or money, and her response was, why don’t they just go to the bank? I chuckled and said, the bank doesn’t just give out money (although I wish they did), people have to work for money and then they put it in the bank. She said oh….

Overtime I will be sharing with you great causes that I have come across, and feel free to share some with me, as we look to help other people out that might be sick, down on their luck, living in a third-world country, or just need help. I know you may be thinking, “hey, I’m struggling too”, but supporting doesn’t always take money.

Here’s a way you can get involved today:

Ronald McDonald House Charities help families that have children that are hospitalized with life-threatening illnesses or diseases. RMHC has partnered with HP to provide encouragement to families living in their houses. All you have to do is visit www.hpesmiles.com and send an eSmile to the Chicago Ronald McDonald House and HP will donate $1 to that home to continue to provide care. The eSmile can be a poem, note, picture, or whatever you think can make the day of someone else. Their goal to raise $50,000 by April 15th.

Have a great weekend!

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On a more serious note, there is another movement that I want you to follow. Many of you may have heard of it already and some may not, but it’s call Stop Kony. Read below and watch this heartwrenching video and let’s pass this information to everyone we know, to aid in the capture of Joseph Kony. This must be stopped. Use your social media influence.

According to kony2012.com:

Who is Joseph Kony?

Joseph Kony is the world’s worst war criminal. In 1987 he took over leadership of an existing rebel group and renamed it the Lord’s Resistance Army (LRA).

The LRA has earned a reputation for its cruel and brutal tactics. When Joseph Kony found himself running out of fighters, he started abducting children to be soldiers in his army or “wives” for his officers. The LRA is encouraged to rape, mutilate, and kill civilians–often with blunt weapons.

The LRA is no longer active in northern Uganda (where it originated) but it continues its campaign of violence in Democratic Republic of Congo, Central African Republic, and South Sudan. In its 26-year history, the LRA has abducted more than 30,000 children and displaced at least 2.1 million people.