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It’s ok to take a break: Focusing without neglecting

“It does not do to dwell on dreams and forget to live.”
― J.K. Rowling, Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone

Have you seen the movie “Click” with Adam Sandler? In the movie Adam Sandler is a hardworking father and husband and he is given a universal remote control which allows him to fast forward through certain moments in life such as sex, family time, and arguments, so he can get to fulfilling his career goals faster. His intentions of personal growth and creating a better life for his family were good, but in the meantime he was failing at being a husband, father, and friend, and missing out on so many valuable moments.

How many of us are guilty of this? Or know people that do this? They focus so much on their career, dreams, and providing for their family that they forget how to just LIVE. At some point we have to recommit ourselves to our spouses and families, and find some balance.

Here are a few thoughts to reflect on when you get in those busy type of situations:

1. Is what I’m focused on worth my attention?

2. Is my focus important or is it a reason to stay busy?

3. Busyness does not equal productivity.

4. Can I reschedule or hold off on what I’m doing until a later time/day?

5. It’s okay to relax and take a break, everyone including yourself will thank you!

I want it NOW!

I want to be married NOW!

I want my dream job NOW!

I want a new car NOW!

I want kids NOW!

NOW, NOW, NOW……we don’t necessarily put the words together like this but this is how our inner voice sounds. We sound like Morgan when she wakes me up at 3am some nights screaming “MILK” and I dreadfully sleep walk to the refrigerator and oblige. We live in a world of instant gratification, everything is instant; food, these get rich quick schemes, press here for a free iPad (yeah right), and quickie degree programs. The truth is most of us want things to happen quickly or overnight and this is why most people settle for what is quick and don’t pursue their true passion.

What if when God was creating the earth and everything in it, he said hey, I can do this in three days instead of seven, would everything be as precise? Would there be four seasons or two? Interesting fact: If you are growing an orange tree it takes around three years for the tree to mature and begin to consistently bear fruit and around 27 years to fully mature. It took your mother nine months to nurture and develop a healthy baby that is so wonderfully you!

All I am trying to say is all of those things didn’t happen overnight, they went through a process to turn into something worthwhile. If short-cuts had been taken in any of those instances we wouldn’t be here and we wouldn’t enjoy the fruit of others hard work that we enjoy everyday.

I want to encourage you. It may seem like its taking you longer than most to finish school, hang in there you will finish in your own time. People may be putting the pressure on you, why aren’t you married with kids yet? It’s ok, take your time, it is something else you should be doing right now. Why isn’t your business taking off right now, you have been working on that plan for a while now? It’s okay progress is not always linked to a specific time.

It’s ok to slow down, think things through, and don’t allow people or in many cases ourselves to pressure us into NOW.

Have a great day!

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