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When people don’t support your dream

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Isn’t this what we all want? LOL
downloadOn a more serious note…Believe it or not, I started writing this post in July 2013. I added to it several times but never pursued completing it because I didn’t want to sound as if I was resentful. Earlier this week a conversation between fellow bloggers on a network I’m a part of led to a nudge in my back and awakened these words from my safe place. Most of my posts begin like that, I go back and forth, I’m going to share this, nope not sharing that, and eventually I share and it never fails…someone reaches out to me and says thank you that was for me. So here I am again…if you’ve chosen to follow your dreams, start a business, write a book, go back to school, quit your job, and support is lacking…this is for you. Be Encouraged.
What to do when people don’t support you?
When you make a huge ginormous decision to do something great the first people, you will assume to help or support you would be the people closest to you, your friends and family. Unfortunately, this is not always the case! You send out a mass text, emails, bring it up at family gatherings and the people closest to you still don’t give their support. When this happens it’s easy to think, what is wrong with me, am I really walking in my purpose, and you begin to doubt your gift and decisions.I have a great support system, but even I have friends and family members who have probably never read this blog, commented, liked, or shared one post, and I’m okay with that. I have people who are invested, who read almost every post, comment frequently, call, and send me inspiring text messages and emails. I’ve learned over time, that’s what matters most.
Here are three things you need to do when people don’t support you:
1. Don’t take it personal, It’s not about you!
Unless it’s some true hateration going on, it’s not about you. Your friends and family aren’t necessarily setting out to not support your dream or venture. It could be that they don’t understand what you’re doing and don’t know how to help you. Personally, I think that silence from some people is golden. I would rather have someone not say anything at all than to give me all of the reasons why I shouldn’t do something and show opposition.
2. Support someone else’s dream.
You want support, giving support is the best way to get it in return. Instead using useless energy focusing on what someone else isn’t doing, turn that energy into the fuel you need to push someone else further. Many times we freely tell people what our dreams are, but we fail to inquire about theirs. Simply ask someone “What’s your dream and how can I support you?”
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 3. Be too focused to notice.
Don’t pause for the applause. Your purpose isn’t tied to support, it’s linked to investment. Find a network of people who will support you and invest in your dream, these are the people who will assist you in taking your dream or business to the next level. Don’t allow who you don’t have to, to make you feel like giving up. Stay focused on your goal.
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I saw this quote awhile ago “Friends won’t start supporting you until strangers start celebrating you.” Do you think this is true? Leave me a comment below.


  1. Ebony says:

    I deemed this blog to be true on all levels. As hurtful as it could be that those closest to you are not supporting, it is such motivation to continue to PUSH forward. Believe me I can bare witness to all the above situations, so I try hard to be very supportive of family and friends even when I think differently about what they are doing. People don’t learn from successes, they learn from failures.

  2. Baby Teems says:

    I really think when its our CLOSEST friends don’t acknowledge your endeavors or ask you how its going you should definitely take that personal. That’s not a friend to me. And the truth is, it IS hurtful and discouraging. I think that is the point where you surround yourself with like minded and supportive people to keep you on track. We can’t be successful on our own. I believe in supporting others dreams because I know what it means and it feels good to do so. You may not get it back from the same people but your time will come. Good post and advice.

  3. hmeeka24 says:

    Sadly enough I’ve learned to walk alone in most cases. I ponder over things and then once I’ve decided to do it…I just do it. Many think it may be impulsive but they just don’t know that I considered this one thing for months. You should have that support so you can bounce ideas off of others that will consider your best interest. My goal to consciously be more supportive of others and be more open, you can’t blame others for not being supportive if they never even knew. I also agree that you can’t expect everyone to be supportive and not to take it personal. Great post!

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